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Follow Your Heart

January 17, 2017 By healings-admin Leave a Comment

For the most important aspects of your life, such as relationships and your vocation, the best path for you to take is the one that is dictated by your heart. When you are truly looking within, you know what you desire your life to be. The path to realizing your heartfelt desires may not be the easiest one you will take, but it will be the most rewarding because you will be fulfilling the purpose of your soul.

Throughout our lives, we create and share a variety of relationships. It is through these connections that we cultivate love and learn how to successfully communicate with one another. When you invite someone into your life, you are providing an opening for the development of a relationship. As you get to know someone, you make choices about whether the relationship is healthy and beneficial for you. If you are with someone that you know in your heart is not good for you, misery creeps into your life, especially if you continue to remain in that relationship. It is because you are allowing fear to rule your life, instead of your heart. Deep down, you know which relationships you should keep and which ones you should end. It does not matter what other people’s opinions are regarding this topic. What matters is that you follow what you know to be true for you.

With regard to jobs and careers, it is sometimes necessary for monetary reasons to work for an employer or to perform a job that is not the right one for you. If you are in a job situation in which you are deeply dissatisfied, then it is time to look within your heart to determine the path that would bring you the greatest happiness. What activities do you enjoy? What classes can you take to improve your skills? Can you turn it into a profitable vocation? How can you incorporate the activities and skills you enjoy into the work that you already perform? Keep an open mind and do your best to move beyond your fears. As you are developing your ideas and growing your skills, you may need to continue to work in the job that is not the best fit. The positive actions you are taking toward enjoyable employment will uplift your spirits and help you to endure the less desirable job situation.

Our daily challenges are to overcome the fear that holds us back from living the life we truly desire. Fear is an illusion manifested by the negative voice of the ego. An integral part of our life purposes as human beings is to step beyond the worries and fears in order to see the truth within our souls. When we do that, we are in sync with the universe and our most heartfelt desires come to life on this plane. The path to your happiness and the answers to your questions can be found within your heart, the place through which your soul speaks.

Any time you feel you need assistance, whether it is for strengthening your resolve, support in making the changes that would usher in more happiness in your life, or more faith in yourself or your dreams, you can ask God and the angels for their help. They are there for you and will guide you and support you. Have patience, listen to the guidance provided to you through your heart, and trust that everything will work out for the best for you…and it will.

Namaste!

With much love and many blessings for all,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

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How to Experience Heaven on Earth

July 22, 2015 By healings-admin Leave a Comment

Do you remember what life was like when you were a child? Do you remember the simplicity of your days and having the belief that anything was possible? As we grow, our responsibilities increase, we experience hardships, and we learn lessons about love and loss that may harden our hearts and block us from the magical possibilities that are a part of our existence each and every day.

Fear is the Ultimate Block

The human ego, which is the seat of our fears and insecurities, tries to protect us from further emotional pain by reminding us of our past hurts. It can be a very persistent and persuasive voice that tells us not to try again or that taking risks is hopeless because it will only bring pain, rejection, and disappointment. As well-meaning as the human ego can be, it can also be very detrimental if we grant it too much power over our lives.

Taking Risks Brings Rewards

The gift of the human ego was given to us as a challenge we are meant to learn to effectively manage. We cannot rid ourselves of it while residing on this earth, because it is as much a part of our physical existence as our human bodies. The best we can do is to learn how to recognize its influence in our daily decisions, thank it for its presence, and learn how to move beyond the limitations it tries to instill upon us. By taking risks and believing in the positive rewards that come from living our dreams, making new friends, and opening ourselves up to love relationships, we do expose ourselves to potential emotional pain. At the same time, though, we grant ourselves the opportunity to experience the greatest satisfaction and love that we can achieve in this lifetime.

Forge Ahead with Loving Power

By forging ahead with the loving power within our souls, we are fulfilling our destinies for this lifetime. To do this, you must know and love yourself first, believe in who you are, and move forward without fear. Silence the inner critic of the human ego that tells you that you are not good enough or that other people’s opinions and emotions are more powerful and important than your own. Are other people living your life? No. Do they know what it is like to be you? No. Remember, other people’s fears come to the surface, and they may try to press them upon you because they are afraid you might get hurt or they may inwardly feel jealous that you are willing to take risks. Again, these fearful emotions are coming from that persistent voice of the human ego. Our job is to learn how to recognize when we are receiving sound advice or information based on fact, and when we are receiving advice or information that is based solely on fear.

Choosing to Refocus

Once your human ego awareness filter has been activated, you can begin to experience the magic of heaven on earth. What other people think of you is not going to matter so much anymore. You can recognize when the human ego is trying to prevent you from living the life you are meant to live, and you can move right past the fears it throws in your path. This does not mean that you will never experience fear, it means that you have discovered the key to managing it. Emotional pain is a part of life, but it does not need to rule you. It does not last forever unless you choose to allow it to do so. The key part of that statement is the ability to choose. You are in control of your choices. How you choose to live is entirely up to you. When you are feeling stuck or fearful, that is the time to let go and let God. Enjoy simple pleasures in life, much like you did when you were a child. Sit or walk outside and enjoy the fresh air. Nature is one of the best rejuvenators. Immersing yourself in its beauty and appreciating the gifts of this earth will help remind you that life on earth can be beautiful when we take the time to recognize it. Release your concerns, regrets, and worries, and just be for a while. We all need time to refresh in order to shift our focus to what truly matters…the simplicity of being, of loving, and of knowing that we are loved in return by God and the universe.

Heavenly Help

I experience the magic every single day of my life. I constantly receive messages from heaven that provide me with guidance, comfort, and love. I am not the only one who can experience this. As a spirit medium, I am clearly tapped in to the energies of heaven; however, we all possess this gift to some degree. We are all connected to one another, both here and in heaven, through the heart of our spirits. Our heavenly support teams of loved ones in spirit, God, and the angels, fully support us every day with their love and guidance. They know how challenging life can be on earth, and they want to help us succeed on our journeys. By opening yourself up with faith, love, and confidence to the guidance and messages that come from your heavenly support team, you can experience the magic as well. Communications via our spirits is performed through all of our senses, and the more you learn about how it works, the better you will be at recognizing heaven’s presence on earth.

Learning More

If you are looking to learn about spirit communication, there are many resources available, including my book, How Have You Loved? Choose resources that resonate with you, and enjoy your journey.

Extraordinary Magic

There is so much more to life than meets the eye. I truly wish that everyone could see the universe the way I see it, and by sharing the knowledge and perspective I have gained through my communications with heaven, I hope to help as many people as possible to understand and experience the extraordinary magic within each one of us. If the human ego had its way, we would all live in fear, tied up in the mundane worries of grocery lists and other people’s opinions. There is magic out there in the world that expands well beyond the surface of our existence on earth, and the only way to experience it is to let go of your fears and believe.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

To learn more about Karen, who is based in Horsham, Pennsylvania, and her book, How Have You Loved?, visit her website at www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com.

Spirit Medium Readings: A Two-Part Process

February 13, 2015 By SpiritMedium 8 Comments

When you sit for a spirit medium reading with me, there are two parts to the reading for each loved one in spirit who comes through. The first part of the reading involves identifying the loved one coming through, and the second part of the reading involves the sharing of his or her personal message for you. It is very important to identify who is there in spirit before sharing the message, because who it is coming from is as important as the message itself. Without knowing the identity of the message sender, some messages would make little to no sense to the receiver.

How Information is Transmitted
When spiritual beings communicate with me, they utilize all of my senses—sight, hearing, touch, smell, taste, and inner-knowing (the sixth sense)—for mind to mind communication. Instead of processing information that is picked up by the senses and sent to the brain from outside of myself, I need to focus within to pick up on the information that is being transferred to me from your loved ones in spirit. The process is much more complex than just sitting down and talking with someone. Spiritual beings no longer inhabit a physical body and, therefore, must use their minds and other energetic means to communicate across dimensions. It is an abstract form of communication that requires absolute trust, openness, and receptivity from me, openness and receptivity from you, and clarity and loving strength from your loved ones in spirit.

Confidentiality and Ethics
As a spirit medium, it is my job to clearly relay the information I am receiving in an ethical, honest, and responsible way. It is a great honor to be able to serve you and all spiritual beings through my gifts, and I treat each communication that I receive and share with the reverence it deserves. Because of the very private information that is shared in a reading, I also take your confidentiality very seriously. While, in a teaching setting, I may give examples of certain communications that come through in a reading, I do not disclose names or identities. Private information remains private. This even holds true for my own family members. When I provide a reading, the information remains confidential. It is up to the person sitting for the reading to share what he or she wants to divulge with others.

Part One: Validating the Identity of the Communicator

Questions and Responses
When giving a reading, I have a set of questions that I ask your loved ones in spirit when you and I are working together to identify them. The questions are basic in the beginning, and then they become more in-depth as we go deeper into the validation process. For instance, I ask “Are you male or female?” and “What did you look like?” In response, I receive warmth on the right or left side of my body to indicate male or female, and I am sent an image of your loved one which usually shows what they looked like close to the time of their passing, as you would remember them best, or as they would like to be remembered. The image that they send not only shows me how they looked, but also may give me keys to understanding your loved one’s personality and identity, as well as the relationship they have with you. For instance, when a man comes through wearing red or maroon, this indicates to me that he is a father figure to you. If he is wearing a flannel shirt, it indicates that he may have been more of the outdoorsy type who preferred to spend time outside more than inside. At the same time, he may be creating a tingling sensation in both my hands and sending me an image of a machine shop, indicating that he worked with his hands using the machinery that I am seeing.

Identifying the Communicator
As the information is transmitted, I share it with you, the sitter. When I have gathered enough specific information that could help you to identify a loved one, I will ask whether this person or animal (pets do come through!) sounds familiar to you. The best answer you can give is yes, no, or I don’t know. If the person sounds familiar, but you are not quite sure of who it is, please state that. More information will be brought forth to help you identify them. If you say no and continue to do so as more information is brought forth, I will have to ask your loved one to step aside, and a message from that particular loved one will not be shared. It is important to note that when loved ones come through in a reading, they are yours. They are not mine, nor are they random beings popping in to intrude on your reading. They could be a deceased friend, family member, a pet of yours or of someone you know or knew, neighbor, in-law, acquaintance, or co-worker. It could be a great grandmother that you never met, but who knows you from seeing you from heaven. If this is the case, there may be records, photographs, and people still living that may be able to help you confirm the identity of the person coming through.

My best advice is to keep an open mind. You never know who is going to come through in a reading, nor do you know how they are going to come through, or what messages they will share with you. Remember, they are coming through with information from their point of view, not yours, and they also have the benefit of understanding more about life on earth now that they are in heaven.

Deeper into the Validation
As I am sharing information with you, I am, at the same time, asking for more information from your loved one in spirit about what he or she did for a living, and how he or she passed. You do not hear that part of the communication because I am asking those questions directly to your loved ones in spirit using my mind, not speaking them out loud. In addition to seeing what the communicator looked like, they will also send me symbols that mean something to you, and will help you to identify them. For example, as I was describing a father figure who was coming through, he sent me an image of a lemon. I asked the sitter if this meant something to her in relation to her father, and she replied that it did…her father used to eat lemons raw. This piece of information, in addition to the description of him and various other factors about his personality, what he did for a living, and how he passed, confirmed for her that it was indeed her father. He was well-known for eating this unique culinary delight. The symbols are unique for each individual, and are sent to help trigger your memories of them.

As I mentioned, all of my senses are utilized during a spirit medium reading, and your loved ones in spirit may be communicating with me utilizing several of them at the same time. This rapid overlapping of visions, sounds, tastes, smells, feelings, and knowingness creates a richer and more detailed communication that helps both you and me to identify and understand the messages that are being conveyed. For instance, when I am trying to identify how a person passed, I may be feeling a push like an impact in the region of my chest, seeing a car rolling over, and hearing the word “accident” all at the same time. This indicates to me that the person most likely passed due to an impact to the chest during a car accident.

Wanting to Hear from a Particular Loved One
If for some reason a loved one in spirit does not come through in a reading, it does not mean that they do not love you or want to communicate with you. There are many reasons why this might happen. For instance, other loved ones in spirit may want to share messages during a particular reading because the message coming from them would have a greater impact on your life. It may also be too soon to hear from someone in spirit. Even though contact can be made with loved ones who are recently passed, it is a good idea to give both them and you time to adjust to the transitions that have occurred. For those of us on earth, we need time to grieve. For those who have passed, they need time to reorient themselves to heaven. In most cases, it is good to wait at least two months before sitting for reading in which you hope to hear from a person who has passed. That said, when people ask to hear from a particular person I cannot guarantee that they will come through. I can ask them to join us for the reading; however, it is up to your loved one in spirit whether they come through at that time. Free will is a gift that is ours to keep, including after we cross over into heaven.

Let the Information Flow
Your loved ones in spirit do their best to convey information in a way that helps you to readily identify who they are in order to get to the heart of the reading, which is their personal message to you. One way to bog down this process is to continually interject questions such as, “What is their name?” or “If this is really my cousin, where did she go on vacation in 1972?” If it is appropriate for your loved ones in spirit to furnish this information in a reading, they will do so without prompting. They do not have time during a reading to give every minute detail of your life or theirs. They truly are doing their best to communicate. Some loved ones in spirit are more skilled than others at communicating with spirit mediums. Like any skill, it is knowledge that is learned, and some have had more practice at it than others.

Even though you may have a set idea in your mind about the information you would like to receive, it is important to know that I, as the spirit medium, receive only the information that is shared by your loved ones in spirit. He or she decides the type of information to be imparted, and this might not include preconceived notions of what you think they would share with you. Continually interjecting with questions has the potential to disrupt the flow of spirit-to-spirit communication, which requires a steady energetic connection and level of concentration that exceeds every day communications.

In my mind, I like to think of us as a team working together in harmony to transmit, receive, and share communications across the dimensions. By permitting communications to naturally flow from their spirit through mine to yours, you are allowing your loved ones in spirit to convey messages in the way they think is best, which will help you to get the most out of your reading. After you have identified your loved one in spirit and they have shared their messages with you, you can ask questions of them if you have them.

Part Two: Personal Messages for You

Sharing Knowledge, Love, and Guidance
Once the identity of your loved one in spirit has been established, it is time for part two of the communication process with your loved one in spirit – his or her personal messages for you. There is always an important reason for a loved one coming through in a reading. Often, they share messages of import regarding your life. This could be about events that occurred in the past, are occurring presently, or will occur in the future. Your loved ones in spirit watch over you from heaven, and they know what you are in need of with regard to your life. That said, what they share with you is not trivial. They have gone through a lot of effort to communicate across dimensions, and what they share could have a profound effect on your life and the evolution of your soul.

Messages of love, forgiveness, guidance, and more are shared with the hope that you, the sitter, will be open and receptive to the messages. For example, I have had loved ones in spirit come through asking for forgiveness for abusive treatment, neglect, or having a hard time sharing love. The forgiveness that he or she is asking for is not for the benefit of the communicator, but for the recipient of the reading. It may be imperative for the sitter to release all of the pent up negativity and resentment against this person in order to move on with his or her life, and begin to establish healthier relationships with others. Other times, loved ones come through to let a sitter know that they are, indeed, in heaven and at peace, and that his or her passing was meant to be. Each message that comes through is crafted with divine love, and gets to the heart of matters that are most important to the sitter from the viewpoint of heaven. It is up to the sitter whether he or she chooses to accept the information given, and to use it in a way that uplifts and improves his or her life.

Equally Important
Both parts of a spirit medium reading are equally important to you, the sitter. Validating the identity of the being coming through establishes the connection between you and your loved ones in spirit, and also provides the background context for the messages you are about to receive from them. The messages that come through from your loved ones in spirit contain invaluable pieces of information that come from the heart of their spirit to yours, and are divinely conceived and directed.

It is my hope that this article provided you with a more thorough understanding of how spirit communication works, as well as an appreciation for the complex process of communicating spirit-to-spirit. I also hope that it allows you to get the most out of your next spirit medium reading.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

To learn more about Karen, who is based in Horsham, Pennsylvania, and her book, How Have You Loved?, visit her website at www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com.

Break Free from Your Self-Imposed Prison

January 13, 2015 By SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

What if at this moment in time you could be happy and fully accept every circumstance in your life as being 100% perfect as it is? Do you know what that looks like or feels like? Let’s freeze frame this moment in time right now and examine our lives. Right now, I am sitting here writing this article, which is an activity that I love to do. You are reading it, which I hope is an activity that you love to do. There are many aspects to both of our lives that may seem imperfect or problematic, depending on how you look at them. For instance, I am a single woman who has spent many years searching for a great partner to share my life with. I could be very upset, depressed, or feel hopeless about prayers that seem to have gone unanswered, or I could see and fully embrace that there is an important reason or reasons why, up to this point, that I have remained single. I can tell you this, it is not because God is punishing me, or that I am not worthy of reciprocated love. It is because that was the path that I was supposed to take in order to get me to this very moment in time. From this point forward, anything can happen.

Infinite Possibilities
By letting go of any preconceived notions that I have about how my life will go, or even my day, I open myself to infinite possibilities. Stop and think about that for a moment. Drink it in. Allow your mind to expand to the fact that anything can happen; that your life does not need to go down a certain path, but that it can go down any path at any given moment. Just because certain circumstances have occurred in the past, it does not mean that they have to occur that way in the future. You are not handed a script each morning for the events of your day. Anything can happen…even your most heartfelt dreams coming true. Let yourself envision all of the wonderful possibilities for you. See your dreams coming true, and feel it in your heart. Know within your entire being that you are meant to be happy, and allow that knowing to permeate your entire being – your thoughts, your feelings, your heart, your spirit.

Let Go of the Wheel!
The desire to control each and every aspect of our lives actually closes us off from divine intervention that could help us in our efforts on earth. Frustration, anger, and disappointment can end up ruling our thoughts when events do not turn out the way we think we want them to go. These negative emotions have the potential to cloud our judgment, making it difficult to see the positive in seemingly negative situations. It could be that if your life had gone in the direction that you were trying so hard to steer it in, that you would miss out on even greater opportunities for happiness. By letting go of the desire to control circumstances and others (which is futile, by the way), you open yourself up to allowing the universe to step in and answer your prayers in the best possible ways.

Telling the Ego to Take a Backseat
The human ego is the mechanism in our minds that drives that desire to control, and it was put in place as a challenge that we are meant to overcome. The ego is very persistent, and is constantly looking for opportunities to jump in and heap on a slew of negative thoughts that are based on the illusion created by fear. It loves to try to make you think that events are more important than they really are by pressing you with guilt to perform certain actions, such as throwing an expensive birthday party for your kids or buying that “must-have” gadget. When you learn how to recognize the ego’s presence and voice in your thoughts, you can thank it for doing its job well, and let it know that you are not in need of its services at this time. You can be stronger with your dismissal if it persists, and the best way to dismiss it is to embrace the love within your heart that you have for yourself and others. Let the voice of the ego fade into the background, and give rise to the voice of your spirit which will guide you to your heart’s desires.

Action from the Heart
By the way, letting go of the need to control outcomes does not mean that you take no action. It means that you take actions that bring you happiness and you find joy in each moment, no matter what the task. It also means that you let go of expectations and allow your heavenly support team to step in and help you. There are many ways that guidance will come to you. The easiest to recognize is when it comes through repetitive thoughts and messages to take positive actions. Please note that the ego may try to step in and tell you that these actions are far-fetched or impossible to carry out. For instance, I have been given guidance to write my next book. By following the guidance and writing it, I may be triggering events that will answer my prayers. If you find yourself dragging your feet about taking a certain action, it may be time to thank the ego again for doing its job, and let it know that its services are not needed at this time. If you are having difficulty recognizing guidance from your heavenly support team, you may want to perform some emotional and spiritual housekeeping to help you to open up.

Many of us carry the pain of the past in our hearts. The human ego loves to dredge up this pain to keep us mired in feelings of futility. Remember, it is the ego’s job to place challenges in our way, and it will use whatever means necessary to block us from happiness. It is our job to recognize its tactics in order to move past the obstacles, and embrace the light within our spirits from which true guidance is born.

To move forward with an open heart, accept your past and thank all of the circumstances that have led you to this moment in time. All of the situations you have encountered have served an important role in the growth of your soul, and now it is time to release any lingering sadness or negativity, and move forward with love and understanding. Envision a beautiful, soft pink light in the center of your chest, which is also known as your heart chakra. Truly feel the loving energy as it sweeps away the past with acceptance and forgiveness, and replaces it with the lighter energy of love that grows to encompass your entire being. Allow yourself to revel in loving energy so that you can recall it any time you feel the need to release or re-release any negative feelings that may have tried to accumulate in your heart. The past is over and cannot be relived, and the future is yet to be. Only in the present can we truly live and enjoy each moment, and in this very moment, everything is exactly as it is supposed to be.

Setting Yourself Free
By embracing happiness and fully accepting every circumstance in your life as 100% perfect as it is, you are putting your absolute trust in God. You are loving every part of you, just as you are. You are accepting that you are in the perfect place for you right now. Most importantly, you are living, embracing, and accepting this moment. Here are some of the affirmations that I use to reaffirm my acceptance and faith in the perfection of this moment:

I place my absolute trust in God, and know that the universe fully supports me.
I am safe, and I am loved.
I love every part of me, just as I am.
What I think of me is more important than what anyone else thinks of me.
I am in the perfect place for me right now.
I know that I am loved absolutely by God, and that he wants me to succeed in life, and will help me to do so.
I am open to the guidance I receive from God and the angels through repetitious thoughts and messages that are guiding me to my true heart’s desires.
I know that God’s idea of success in life has to do with how much love I share with myself and others. My success does not have anything to do with the size of my bank account or the type of job that I have, but about the lessons in love that I incorporate into my daily existence.
I forgive any and all who have hurt me, knowing that we are all human, and that we all make mistakes.
I accept that every situation and experience in my life has made me into the beautiful person that I am. I thank God for all that has transpired, is transpiring, and will transpire in my life.

The Effects of Freedom
My life has changed in profound ways through the freedom I have embraced with these concepts. I am happier and much more relaxed. I can see on a daily basis how I am being helped by God and my heavenly support team. By no longer being attached to specific outcomes or trying to control events, I find myself flowing much more easily with the events and circumstances that come into my life. This change in my outlook came about because I felt like I was constantly fighting my way through life. I was tired, and I asked and pleaded to God to help me. I did not want to spend my life battling uphill. I want to be happy and to enjoy all that life has to offer. In the weeks after, I kept hearing the words “let it go” in my mind whenever I was struggling with a particular issue. The hilarious part is that the song from Disney’s Frozen® would then play in my mind. My guys and gals in heaven have a great sense of humor.

By sharing this information with you, I hope that you, too, can experience a level of happiness and satisfaction with your life that enables you to make the most of it. Everyone, including you, deserves to be happy…and you can be when you set yourself free.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

When and How to Say No

August 21, 2014 By SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Loving who you are and believing in yourself means that you value yourself enough to know when to say no to someone who wants to take advantage of your kindness or who wants you to do something you really do not want to do. People who were raised to always be polite or are looking for approval and acceptance from others can have a tendency to agree to certain actions that they do not want to participate in because they are afraid of being perceived as rude or they are afraid of being rejected.

It Starts with You
Love and respect comes from within you. You must respect and honor yourself and your feelings. If you do not, others will not respect and honor you either. The person or persons who do not respect your right to say no may not have your best interests at heart. If they continue to push you, they are most likely trying to force their own agenda onto you. Some people may have legitimate and honorable reasons for doing so; however, if there is something you do not want to do, then you should not do it.

Own Your Personal Power
It is also important to note that when you say no, you do not have to give reasons or excuses. This may be tough to do at first because societal conditioning regarding excessive politeness and strong desires to fit in or be liked may prompt you to want to give an excuse to garner approval. Excuses are like weak links in your self-esteem, they give someone more information that they can use as a way of breaking your resistance to their request or demand. Your reasons are your own, and you do not need to explain yourself to anyone. If someone continues to aggressively push you, you have the right to step away from the situation. Again, anyone who tries to push you that hard is most likely focusing on an agenda that will not benefit you, especially if they are asking you to compromise yourself or your values.

How are You Treating Others?
On the other side of this, if you are aggressively trying to convince someone to do something that they do not want to do, it would be best to respect their decision. It is possible to open up a dialog that could result in an equitable compromise; however, each person involved must be in agreement as to how to proceed. The solution should not overly tax one person’s resources over another’s, nor should you have to compromise your values or yourself in order to achieve an equitable agreement that supports all parties involved.

Healing Begins with Dialog
Saying no to someone just to be spiteful or taking actions against someone out of spite is another matter altogether. This type of behavior is vengeful and is based on a desire to hurt someone. If you find yourself doing this, you may want to take a close look at why you chose to respond in this manner. If someone has hurt you, answering their misinformed behavior by attempting to deliver pain will not bring about healing. It will only escalate the painful situation even more, and may bring about disastrous results for both parties. A healthier way to handle this situation would be to discuss with the person or persons involved the actions or behaviors that brought you pain. Give them a chance to explain why they acted the way they did. Sometimes, people are not aware that their actions hurt you. By talking about it, you are giving yourselves the opportunity to foster understanding and healing through open dialog.

What to Do if Conversation Is not Possible
If a conversation is not possible because the person refuses to listen or if it would put you in a position that threatens your safety, then it may be best for you to walk away from this relationship and forgive them for their actions. Forgiveness does not mean that you condone their actions. It means that you are unwilling to carry toxic feelings within your heart. By cleansing yourself of the negative feelings brought about by carrying grudges, you can free yourself of the emotional black cloud you have been attracting and invite more positive experiences in your life. Remember, like attracts like. If your thoughts are concentrated on negative experiences, you will most likely draw more of the same toward you. When your thoughts are more positive and based on forgiving people for the mistakes they have made, then you will most likely draw more loving and understanding relationships into your life.

Honor and Respect Multiplies
Honor yourself by making decisions that are in alignment with you and your values. When you give in and do things that you do not want to do, you are giving other people the power to take advantage of you. You can retain your power in a healthy and assertive way by standing up for yourself in a calm and self-assured manner. Aggressiveness, yelling, and strong-arming tactics create unhealthy relationship dynamics that often lead to negative consequences. You can be polite and tell people no at the same time. In fact, they may even respect you more for it because respect for yourself cultivates respect from others.

Ask for Help
If you need help believing in yourself, learning how to say no, or communicating from your heart when facing trying circumstances, you can always call on your heavenly support team to assist you. Ask them to lend you the spiritual strength you need to stand up for yourself in a positive way or to resolve the situation in a way that is for the good of all parties involved. Know that your loved ones in spirit, your angels, and your spirit guides want you to succeed on your spiritual journey on earth, and will send love, peace, and spiritual strength when you ask for it.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

How to Have Your Prayers Answered in the Best Possible Way

August 3, 2014 By SpiritMedium 2 Comments

Each one of us has prayers and requests that we would love to have answered, whether it is for the improved health of a loved one or ourselves, for assistance with our finances, or for our relationships to improve. It can be frustrating and disheartening to see so many days, weeks, months, or even years go by without those prayers and requests being fulfilled. You may even experience uncertainty or loss of faith regarding whether your prayers and requests will be answered. I know this because I have experienced it myself. That is, until I realized that our prayers and requests are answered, just not always in the ways we think.

Life is the Accelerated Course for Soul Evolution
Every experience that we have on earth has its basis in life lessons that we selected before we were born. In heaven, there is little to no negativity. We learn lessons; however, here on earth, where we experience negativity as a result of the gift of the human ego, we opt to take the accelerated course in soul evolution. Before we are born, we work with our main soul groups in heaven to determine the lessons we will help each other learn. The details are unfurled throughout each day through an elaborate coordination of events that provides lessons and experiences for multiple people at once.

Our Prayers are in Accordance with Our Life Plans
When we make a request or say a prayer, it comes from the heart of our beings, and it is sent telepathically to our heavenly support teams. They examine our requests, which interestingly are already in alignment with the lessons we are to learn in this lifetime, and they determine how and when they can be incorporated into our lives. Sometimes, the events and conditions we ask for are not in our own best interest to receive, such as asking for a partner to return or a loved one to receive physical healing. It is not because your heavenly support team wants to deny you, it may be because the relationship you asked about has served its purpose in the evolution of your soul and it is time to move on to something better, or because the healing you requested is not part of the overall plan for the soul involved, or even you. It may be that you need to learn how to have faith in the overall scheme of life and the ways in which God and the angels answer your prayers. The healing that might be received instead is the gift of acceptance and inner peace, and a true relationship with God.

Simplistic View of a Complex Process
This is a very simplistic way to describe a complex process that involves an infinite number of minute decisions that affect the lives of millions of souls every day. I am writing about it to help you to understand that there is much more going on than meets the eye. God and our angels want the best for us and our loved ones at all times. They know what we need for the evolution of our souls, and when we make our requests, they do their best to fulfill them in the best way possible for everyone involved.

Let Go of the Need to Control Outcomes
When sending my requests and prayers, I have learned to put them out there and then let go of the need to control the outcomes. This is a challenging mindset to achieve at first, because the human ego is constantly trying to tell us that we need gratification now. You can learn how to override the ego’s voice in your head that is trying to push you into believing that you must have everything your way in this very moment. It takes practice to do this; however, the rewards include inner peace through the positive acceptance of circumstances, greater faith in your heavenly support team and the purpose of events that occur in your life, and leaving an opening for the universe to step in and deliver the answers to your requests and prayers in a way that may exceed your expectations.

Important Steps that You Can Take
Here are the steps that have helped me to release my need to control outcomes:

Learn to recognize the ego’s insistence by the anxiety it produces about the situation at hand.
Once recognized, the ego can then be consciously managed by replacing the racing thoughts and worry with more positive affirmations and concentration on living in the moment.
Add to that a belief and a knowing within your soul that everything will work out in the best way possible for you and everyone involved, whether it is in the way you imagine or not.
Be at peace with yourself and the situation, and allow yourself to be open and accepting of whatever the outcome may be. Even if that outcome is not exactly what you wanted, you are most likely going to be the recipient of something even better.
Keep your eyes open to the ways your prayers and requests are being answered. Put the pieces of the puzzle together and see how you really are receiving the answers to your prayers and requests.
If you try to manipulate the situation, you may be preventing your prayers and requests from being answered, and you may be causing yourself unnecessary misery.
Ask God and your angels to help you to release yourself from your concerns and worries. Give your concerns and worries to them with faith and trust that comes from knowing that they will handle the issues for you in the best way for all involved.
If there are action steps that you can take toward the realization of your prayers and requests, take them, as long as you are not trying to force a resolution.
If you are hitting major roadblocks when taking the action steps, it may be a sign that you are heading in a direction that may not ultimately bring you the best answers to your prayers and requests.
When you hit those major roadblocks, it may be a good time to pull back and reassess your involvement. Ask your heavenly support team for help with being at peace with your situation and wait for guidance.
1. Answers will come to you through repeated signs or messages that you perceive through your intuition, or via communications from your heavenly support team.
  1. These signs or messages may come to you through people with whom you are conversing, and they end up sharing information that provides the answers you were looking for, but did not know existed.
  2. They may also come through music you hear or physical clues you are given in the form of actual words on signs that appear before you. I love it when they provide answers on the license plates of cars, such as “HEALED,” or “LUV4U” (love for you).
  3. With your intuition, you may feel an urge to take a certain action. For instance, you may have this strong feeling to visit a certain location such as a favorite restaurant or park. While there, you may have part of your prayers or requests answered.
Take your mind off of your concerns and worries by taking part in a relaxing activity that brings you joy, whether it is a walk in the park, craft work or hobbies, or playing with your kids or pets.
Know in your heart that you are loved and that you are fully supported in your journey in life by your heavenly support team. They will send you signs periodically that they are around such as dropping feathers or coins in your path, sending butterflies as a reminder of the beauty of transformation, or other objects that remind you of the angels or loved ones in spirit.

Key Points to Remember about the Ego
As always, practice makes perfect when training yourself to replace old habits with newer, healthier ones. Keep in mind that the human ego is a challenge that we must contend with until our physical bodies expire and our spirits move on to our next destination. To keep everything in perspective, there are two very important factors to remember about the ego:

The negativity and fears produced by the ego are illusions that we are meant to learn how to manage in our lifetimes.
The spiritual strength of love is the most powerful energy in the universe, and it can be utilized in the form of self-love to manage the behavior and effects of the human ego.

Love is at the Heart of the Matter
Loving who you are is one of the best ways you can assure yourself of a happy life. Regardless of when, where, or how your prayers or requests are answered, when you love yourself, you are more likely to make decisions that are in alignment with you and your soul plan. You are also more likely to be at peace with yourself because you have learned to manage the persistent negative voice of the ego that is trying to tear you down with the illusionary fears, worries, doubts, and regrets it creates. Moreover, the closer and more loving the relationship you have with yourself, the closer and more loving your relationships grow with God and your heavenly support team.

Sending You My Love
Blessings to you, and may you find the peace within your heart to accept the love and answers to your prayers and requests in the best way possible for you and your loved ones.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

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