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Receiving Closure and Managing Grief Associated with the Loss of a Loved One

September 16, 2014 by SpiritMedium 2 Comments

Your loved ones in spirit and other members of your heavenly support team know when you are struggling to move through certain stages of the grief process. While grieving for the loss of loved one is healthy, becoming stuck in a certain stage of the grief process can be very detrimental to your life.

Four Stages of the Grieving Process
The four main stages of the grieving process, which I describe in detail in my book, How Have You Loved?, are outlined below:

Denial
Anger
Sadness
Acceptance

A person may fluctuate between the various stages before they reach the final stage of acceptance and peace with a loved one’s passing. Often, people spend a lot of time in the second and third stages of anger and sadness. The anger is usually directed at God for “taking them away” from you, and the great sadness is often for the physical loss of the person’s presence in your life. It is important to note that God does not punish us. He does not call your loved ones back home to heaven in retaliation for any of your actions, past or present. When a soul is called home, it is because it is the time that was agreed to prior to birth.

Agreements Prior to Birth
The time and the manner in which someone physically passes is determined before a person is born on earth. In heaven, we create soul contracts which outline the various lessons that we are going to learn on our spiritual journey on earth. Members of our soul groups, such as our immediate families, coworkers, extended family members, and more, work with us to create plans that will enable each of our souls to grow and reach their full potential.

Life Lessons
The lessons that are selected may require great sacrifices, such as leaving life on earth at an early age in order to help others to learn how to cope with the tragic loss of a loved one. Successfully working through the various stages of grief and learning to accept a person’s passing are two examples of the outcomes of lessons. There is help along the way, such as messages sent to you by your loved ones in spirit, people who enter your life to provide assistance, and books that offer knowledge that broadens your understanding that endings must occur in order for new beginnings to take place.

Answers with Perfect Timing
The relationships that you have with the people around you can offer you powerful resources for healing in ways that you have not even imagined. Our heavenly support teams support us and work through us on earth by placing people in our paths at the right time and the right place. Friends, loved ones, acquaintances, and even strangers may provide answers to our prayers with a perfectly timed call, visit, or meeting that gives us the information we need about our lives. Many times, these instances seem like amazing coincidences; however, there are no coincidences, but rather fantastic examples of coordinated efforts by our heavenly support teams to answer our prayers and requests.

Heavenly Support Teams Join Together
It is interesting to note that people who come to me for spirit medium readings have actually been prompted to do so by their heavenly support teams. Your loved ones in heaven contact the loved ones in heaven who are helping me with my work on earth. Together, they begin the collaboration process to facilitate our meeting with one another.

Your heavenly support team knows when and how you would benefit from direct communications from your loved ones in spirit and the angels, and they ensure that you receive information that prompts you to set up an appointment with a spirit medium. Usually the prompting is both internal and external. You may receive messages and signs that stir your curiosity about mediumship or a reading, and you may have seemingly coincidental experiences occur in which a friend suddenly starts talking about spirit communication, or you see or read something that piques your interest about heaven and receiving messages from the Other Side.

Additionally, your loved ones in spirit will chime in by placing signs in your path that remind you of them and to, hopefully, prompt you to seek out a spirit medium or knowledge that will help you to interpret the signs and messages they send you. To get your attention, your loved ones in spirit may send you signs in the form of objects or images that make you think of them, unusual electronic disturbances that alert you to their presence, music that touches your soul and answers your prayers, and scents piped into the air, such as their perfume or cigarette smoke. Your heavenly support team will also send you intuitive messages in their attempts to steer you toward a meeting with a particular spirit medium, book, or positive path for growth.

Free Will is a Beautiful Gift
What you do with your life lessons and the promptings you receive is your choice. You may choose to ignore the assistance that makes itself known in your life every day, or you can choose to open yourself to the growth and healing that is available. Your loved ones in heaven and your angels want to help you succeed, and they will do what they can to help you on your journey. When you choose to ignore lessons and assistance, you tend to make your journey on earth significantly more challenging for yourself. When you keep an open mind and embrace the mentality that life is a spiritual journey for the benefit of the soul, then you can learn how to live your life in a way that allows the greatest benefit while releasing self-imposed stress, grief, and sadness. The beauty of the gift of free will is that each one of us is given the power to control the choices we make that govern our lives.

You Can Take It With You!
Even though someone may be physically separated from you on earth, your relationship with that person, as well as the love you share, continues on. Your loved ones in spirit watch over you from heaven, they hear your thoughts about them, and feel the love that you send their way. In return, they continuously send you messages of love, healing, and guidance, as well signs that they are around.

Receiving Closure
Your loved ones in spirit know how you would benefit from receiving information that provides healing to your heart and your soul. When participating in a spirit medium reading, they will share with you their love, information about what they are doing in heaven, advice for you about your life, information that will help heal your heart and soul, and more. The peace and healing that comes from receiving direct messages from your loved ones in spirit through a spirit medium reading can provide comfort and closure to those who are grieving, as well as guidance and light for you and your loved ones on earth.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

When and How to Say No

August 21, 2014 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Loving who you are and believing in yourself means that you value yourself enough to know when to say no to someone who wants to take advantage of your kindness or who wants you to do something you really do not want to do. People who were raised to always be polite or are looking for approval and acceptance from others can have a tendency to agree to certain actions that they do not want to participate in because they are afraid of being perceived as rude or they are afraid of being rejected.

It Starts with You
Love and respect comes from within you. You must respect and honor yourself and your feelings. If you do not, others will not respect and honor you either. The person or persons who do not respect your right to say no may not have your best interests at heart. If they continue to push you, they are most likely trying to force their own agenda onto you. Some people may have legitimate and honorable reasons for doing so; however, if there is something you do not want to do, then you should not do it.

Own Your Personal Power
It is also important to note that when you say no, you do not have to give reasons or excuses. This may be tough to do at first because societal conditioning regarding excessive politeness and strong desires to fit in or be liked may prompt you to want to give an excuse to garner approval. Excuses are like weak links in your self-esteem, they give someone more information that they can use as a way of breaking your resistance to their request or demand. Your reasons are your own, and you do not need to explain yourself to anyone. If someone continues to aggressively push you, you have the right to step away from the situation. Again, anyone who tries to push you that hard is most likely focusing on an agenda that will not benefit you, especially if they are asking you to compromise yourself or your values.

How are You Treating Others?
On the other side of this, if you are aggressively trying to convince someone to do something that they do not want to do, it would be best to respect their decision. It is possible to open up a dialog that could result in an equitable compromise; however, each person involved must be in agreement as to how to proceed. The solution should not overly tax one person’s resources over another’s, nor should you have to compromise your values or yourself in order to achieve an equitable agreement that supports all parties involved.

Healing Begins with Dialog
Saying no to someone just to be spiteful or taking actions against someone out of spite is another matter altogether. This type of behavior is vengeful and is based on a desire to hurt someone. If you find yourself doing this, you may want to take a close look at why you chose to respond in this manner. If someone has hurt you, answering their misinformed behavior by attempting to deliver pain will not bring about healing. It will only escalate the painful situation even more, and may bring about disastrous results for both parties. A healthier way to handle this situation would be to discuss with the person or persons involved the actions or behaviors that brought you pain. Give them a chance to explain why they acted the way they did. Sometimes, people are not aware that their actions hurt you. By talking about it, you are giving yourselves the opportunity to foster understanding and healing through open dialog.

What to Do if Conversation Is not Possible
If a conversation is not possible because the person refuses to listen or if it would put you in a position that threatens your safety, then it may be best for you to walk away from this relationship and forgive them for their actions. Forgiveness does not mean that you condone their actions. It means that you are unwilling to carry toxic feelings within your heart. By cleansing yourself of the negative feelings brought about by carrying grudges, you can free yourself of the emotional black cloud you have been attracting and invite more positive experiences in your life. Remember, like attracts like. If your thoughts are concentrated on negative experiences, you will most likely draw more of the same toward you. When your thoughts are more positive and based on forgiving people for the mistakes they have made, then you will most likely draw more loving and understanding relationships into your life.

Honor and Respect Multiplies
Honor yourself by making decisions that are in alignment with you and your values. When you give in and do things that you do not want to do, you are giving other people the power to take advantage of you. You can retain your power in a healthy and assertive way by standing up for yourself in a calm and self-assured manner. Aggressiveness, yelling, and strong-arming tactics create unhealthy relationship dynamics that often lead to negative consequences. You can be polite and tell people no at the same time. In fact, they may even respect you more for it because respect for yourself cultivates respect from others.

Ask for Help
If you need help believing in yourself, learning how to say no, or communicating from your heart when facing trying circumstances, you can always call on your heavenly support team to assist you. Ask them to lend you the spiritual strength you need to stand up for yourself in a positive way or to resolve the situation in a way that is for the good of all parties involved. Know that your loved ones in spirit, your angels, and your spirit guides want you to succeed on your spiritual journey on earth, and will send love, peace, and spiritual strength when you ask for it.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

What to Do When Past Pain Resurfaces

February 16, 2014 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

As we go through our lives working through challenging personal situations, healing from them, and accepting them for the lessons they taught us, the old pain that you released may rise to the surface again when we least expect it. Days, months, or even years after you think you have successfully handled the feelings and emotions from the past, you may encounter a situation that is reminiscent of the ones you thought you had a handle on.

Thrown Off Balance
At first, you may be thrown off balance as thoughts and emotions from the past threaten to overwhelm you. However, you are not encountering this situation for the first time. You have already been through this, and you have already learned better ways of handling this situation. For instance, let’s say you are in a situation in which you feel that a person with a forceful personality is trying to manipulate you by insulting you, belittling you, demeaning you, or twisting your words around to suit their needs. Having dealt with this in the past, you are more likely to recognize the manipulative techniques that this person is trying to employ. While it may make you upset to find yourself dealing again with someone who displays this type of negative behavior, you may actually be handling it better than you think.

Reacting Differently through Assertiveness and Love
In this particular situation, it is important to note that the person who is attempting to be manipulative is acting from a place of fear and ego. He or she is not acting from a place of love. It is this person’s intention to force you to bend to his or her will because he or she is afraid of losing power. What this person does not realize is that the perceived power has already been given away the moment he or she decided to allow fear to take over his or her thought processes. When you recognize this, you can choose to react in a manner that does not feed into the fear that this person is projecting. By knowing who you are, you can stand up for yourself in an assertive manner, which is representative of the love that you have for yourself. It is important to note that reacting with aggression, rather than assertion, will only feed into the negative behavior of the other person and drive the situation away from a positive resolution. Stand strong and confident in the love that you have for you, and for the positive and fair resolution of the problem for all involved.

Forgiveness Ushers in Healing
Try not to be upset with yourself if you initially get angry or distraught over the circumstances you are facing. It can be very challenging to deal with situations that are similar to those that brought you pain in the past. Allow yourself to acknowledge your feelings, and then release them. Be at peace with yourself. In your heart and mind, forgive yourself and the person who treated you in this manner, and let go of toxic feelings. Holding a grudge will only serve to hurt you and prevent you from moving forward. Pray for this person’s health and happiness, and let go of the negativity by recognizing that this person has not yet learned to operate from a place of love. Your prayers may help them to move forward, which will mean one more person in this world who embraces the light and love of which we are all a part.

Help Is Available
If you need help working through the emotions and feelings that have arisen from the situation that triggered the resurfacing of past pain, ask God and your angels for help, and speak with friends and family members who are supportive of you and your goals.

Silver Linings
No matter how negative a situation may appear on the surface, there are positive reasons for why they occur in our lives. Once we have lived through the challenging circumstances, we can look back to see what we have learned and decide which route we are going to take if we encounter them again. Situations that rehash pain from the past is not a punishment, but rather an opportunity to put into practice the lessons we have learned and to confirm the growth that has taken place within our spirits.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Meditating with Nature

June 9, 2013 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Spending time in nature is a wonderful way to rejuvenate your Spirit. It is a great way to reconnect with the Spirit that resides within us as the fresh air, birds, animals, plants, flowers and trees provide us with a panorama of natural beauty that speaks to our souls.

Parks are wonderful places to commune with nature. These places have been set aside to preserve and protect the natural habitats of the earth. When we visit them, we are there not only to enjoy them, but also to preserve the flora and fauna that reside there by respecting the land and all of its creatures that dwell there.

When you go to a park or wildlife preserve to commune with nature, take along your binoculars to get a good look at the birds, plants and animals that you discover along your path. Sturdy, but comfortable, footwear and a bottle of water is also recommended. You may also want to bring along a pen and paper to record your thoughts or draw what you see. A camera, too, can help you to capture the beauty of what you are experiencing.

Have no expectations other than to breathe in the fresh air and to take delight in the sights and sounds that nature offers. Take note of the way the sun filters through the trees or sparkles as it reflects off of the water in a stream or lake. Listen to the music of the birds as they sing to one another in the trees. To see the animals, the best time to visit is near dawn or dusk, as this is when they come out to forage for food. Most of all, respect their homes and habitats by simply being an observer. Do not destroy or disturb their environment or leave litter behind. I am sure you would not appreciate it if someone came to your house and trashed it or left litter on the floor. We can all be good citizens of this earth by respecting nature and our environment. Be there to enjoy the splendor of the earth and to breathe in the peace that comes from observing nature’s simplicity, beauty and innocence. It is a gift worth preserving. For those of you who are already actively respecting and maintaining the environment in big and small ways, know that Mother Nature sends you her gratitude.

Nature can be enjoyed at any time. You don’t need to be at a park to hear the birds or to walk barefoot in the grass. Nature is all around us, every day. It is the air that we breathe, the wind that caresses our faces, the water we drink, the vegetables and plants that we eat, the flowers that we grow, the pets that we graciously open our homes and hearts to, the rabbits that hop in our yards, the bees that propagate the pollen for the plants, and the sun that brings warmth and light to our world. Enjoy it, respect it and give gratitude for it.

Whenever you need to feel refreshed and rejuvenated, go outside and take a deep breath. Thank Mother Nature for the gifts that She has given and reconnect with the Spirit that is within you.

Namaste! (The Spirit within me honors the Spirit within you!)

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Knowing You’re Not Alone on Your Journey Through Life

May 19, 2013 by SpiritMedium 1 Comment

Have you ever felt as though you are all alone in this world, facing the challenges of life? I have felt that in my lifetime, especially when I was going through a particularly tough time. It felt as though there was no one around who understood what I was going through or who could be there for me to listen or to provide comfort. I have learned that throughout my trials and tribulations, I have never truly been alone…and neither are you. You have a support system in Heaven that comes from the Creator, the Angels, your Spirit Guides, Past Spiritual Masters, and deceased loved ones. They are there for you. They see your struggles and worries. They hear your prayers. They feel your pain and want to ease it for you. They also share your joy and happiness. In essence, they are there for you in good times and in bad.

You can reach out to your heavenly support system at any time through prayer in thought, said out loud, or in writing. Ask them for help with the situation at hand. They hear you and will do what they can to answer your prayers, as long are they are in accordance with your soul plan and greater good. If what you are praying for will ultimately cause you greater sadness and pain, or send you down a path that would do more harm than good, your heavenly support team will do their best to guide you to better opportunities that meet your true needs and desires. For example, if you are praying for the return of a lost love and that person doesn’t return right away, it may seem as though your prayers weren’t heard or answered…but they have, just not in the way that you may think.

Sometimes it takes time for prayers to be answered. The timing is not based on what we think is best, but on the perfect timing for the evolution of our souls. Sometimes, too, we may not get what we asked for because there is something better coming along for us. Even though we do not always recognize the help that is materializing from our heavenly team, we can help ourselves by having patience and an open mind about how our prayers will be answered. With the situation involving a lost love, God and the Angels know that what you are really asking for is someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are. That person may or may not be ready to do that at the time of your prayer and/or there may be lessons that each of you still need to learn before progress can be made. It can also be that you were only meant to be together to learn particular lessons and now you need to move on. Or, the timing may be perfect for your souls to reunite and they will return to you. We can assist in the answering of our prayers by being mindful about our actions and looking at our experiences to see what lessons we need to learn from them. By taking responsibility for ourselves in this way, we are actively playing an important role in our soul’s evolutional process.

Keep in mind that our support team in Heaven sees and knows much more than we do here on Earth. They know everything about us and what would be best for the evolution of our soul. Therefore, when you ask for help know that they are working on your behalf and that they send you their love. They are always there for you when you need them…all you have to do is reach out with your thoughts and prayers, knowing that your heart’s desires have been heard and will be answered with the perfect timing that is guided by your support team in Heaven. In the meantime, find your center, be at peace with yourself, and know that you are not alone on your journey through this lifetime.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Unity, Peace and Love

April 21, 2013 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

It was amazing and wonderful to see so many people working as one this week in the face of the tragic events in Boston. As two misinformed and misguided young men wreaked havoc in an attempt to devastate our country and its people, we stood shoulder-to-shoulder and helped each other physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

We drew together as a people and lent a hand to help those in need, to do what we could to restore order and calm. Citizens closest to the scenes gave physical aid and comfort, sent their pictures from the race to the authorities, and kept their eyes and ears open for signs of these men and potential threats to our peace. Those of us at a distance sent our prayers, reposted the pictures of the young men on social media outlets, and lent the support of our hearts, our wallets, and our life-giving blood. Furthermore, people in law enforcement and emergency responders went above and beyond the call of duty. They are to be commended for their quick, cooperative responses and actions in the face of such unstable conditions and adversity.

Instead of allowing fear to drive us apart, we pulled together as we did following the events of September 11th. As a nation and as beings who ultimately want to live in peace, we banded together to stop the spread of fear by countering it with love and assistance for our fellow people. We prayed, helped those in need, and cooperated with the professionals trained to protect our safety.

As I prayed for the people who were directly affected by the events and for our nation as a whole, I also prayed for these young men who were taught somewhere along the way that violence and hatred were the answers to life’s problems. I prayed to God and the Angels, asking them to help these men, and anyone else like them, to understand that fear-driven ideology is counterproductive and counterintuitive to our purposes here on Earth.

Each and every day, we can continually strive to live in unity and peace with one another by sharing the love and compassion within our hearts. The more we do this, the better the world will be for all of us. There will still be those that turn to violence and fear, but if we counter it like we did with the events of Boston this week, we will be able to more quickly counter, and even prevent, future events designed to devastate our peace.

My prayer today, and every day, is for all of us to live in Love and to help each other experience the Light within each and every one of our hearts. Blessings and peace to all.

With Light and Love,
Karen

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