When sitting for a reading, everyone has certain people they would like to hear from, such as their mother, grandfather, significant other, or pet. However, there are times when someone other than the loved one you long to hear from comes forward to share communications from the Other Side. It does not mean that the loved one in spirit you wanted to hear from does not love you, but rather that the people or pets coming through have something important to share that can only be shared by them. This could be due to their relationship with you or their experiences in life that could help you with your life at the time of your reading.
Get the Most Out of Your Reading with an Open Mind and Heart
Keeping an open mind about who is coming through, how they are coming through, and what they want to share is important for getting the most out of the communications from your loved ones in spirit. They know better than you what you need for your life to bring healing, closure, and guidance because they have access to your soul contract for this lifetime and know what you need to grow and evolve on a soul level. There are times when you can request a specific loved one in spirit to come through; however, it is up to that loved one in spirit to decide whether it is in your best interest to do so. Most of the time they do; however, there have been rare times when they have not readily stepped up in order to allow another loved one in spirit to bring through communications to help you with your life. Here are some reasons why this may occur:
The Need for Your Heart to Heal
There are times when deep grief can be overwhelming. Your loved ones in spirit recognize the need for you to heal and adjust to the new reality of not having them physically with you on Earth. When you are experiencing deep grief, there can sometimes be a tendency to hold on to the past so strongly that forward movement is being temporarily blocked and you only want to hear what you want to hear, not necessarily what your loved ones in spirit want to share. Your loved ones in spirit recognize this and know you need time and space to heal. It may seem counter to what you think you need; however, they know you may be attempting to hold on to them too strongly and that you may not be open to what they need to share. Giving yourself some time to heal and work through your grief immediately following the crossing of a loved one allows you to be as open as possible to their communications when you do sit for a reading.
They Need Assistance Bringing Through Messages
In certain situations, loved ones in spirit may need assistance communicating through a spirit medium. This can sometimes occur when a loved one has recently crossed over into Heaven and has not yet learned how to communicate spirit-to-spirit on their own. Another loved one in spirit may come through first to help with the communication process. They are there to lend their support, love, and expertise to help the loved one in spirit to share communications with you.
There Are Others in Spirit Who Have Important Communications to Help You with Your Life
There are times when you would like to hear from a particular loved one in spirit, such as your mother, and your father comes through instead. This does not mean that your mother does not love you or want to communicate with you. It means your father has messages for you to help you with your life that only he can deliver because of his relationship with you and his experiences in life.
Your loved ones in spirit have a unique perspective on your life from Heaven. They know more about you and the events destined for your life than you may realize. It is because of this that a certain loved one in spirit may be the one to share communications with you, instead of the one you wanted to hear from that day. Communications from Heaven contain healing messages at the deeper soul-level. Even when they are helping you with seemingly simple occurrences or events in your day-to-day life, they are providing you with proof of their existence beyond life on Earth, as well as their knowledge and ability to help you across dimensions. This information may be just what you need to believe in our existence beyond life on Earth and to know that your connection with them is as vital and loving as it was in life.
They Have Regrets about How They Passed or How They Treated You
When someone was responsible in some way for their own passing, such as from suicide, a drug overdose, or chronic alcoholism, these loved ones in spirit tend to wait in the background or hesitate to come through right away. That is their way of letting me, the spirit medium, know that they had some kind of responsibility for their passing and have regrets about the actions they took, as well as the pain they brought to others as a result.
Souls who had a hard time in life often go to what I call the Spiritual Hospital, which is like a mental health hospital on Earth but with angels facilitating the healing process. There they receive healing for the challenging situations they faced, as well as the manner of their passing. They also receive important guidance for succeeding in their next lifetime, as they may have to return at a later date for another lifetime to complete lessons from their original soul contract. Once their healing is completed in the Spiritual Hospital, they are fully reunited with their loved ones in Heaven and can begin to explore the wonders of the Other Side.
You Already Communicate with Them Every Day
Some people are very much in tune with their loved ones in spirit as they communicate with them every day through their thoughts and speaking out loud to them. The answers are received through signs, urges to take positive action, lyrics in music, and much more. Because the relationship is already in tune and they are comfortable with the love you share, they may allow others in spirit to come through first if they have important messages to share with the recipient.
They Put Others Before Themselves in Life
At times, they may be displaying an aspect of their personality in which they would put others before themselves. Once that is acknowledged, they will step forward with their messages. As a note, healing, assistance, and messages from Heaven can come from people you would not expect, including great-grandparents or grandparents you did not know in life, a friend whom you helped more than you realized, in-laws and ex-in-laws, pets, and more.
Lack of Faith or Lack of an Open Mind
There are times when a lack of faith or demands by the recipient get in the way of communications from the Other Side. A loved one in spirit may be trying to come through, but the person sitting for the reading may be holding out for one specific piece of information to come through before they will claim them. Even though loved ones in spirit may be bringing through a lot of detailed information about their life, who they were, houses they lived in, their work, and more, some recipients reject the information because they are only listening for a “pre-arranged” code word or specific piece of information before they will confirm who they are and claim them. For instance, on the day of a reading, the recipient may ask in their mind for a loved one in spirit to bring through the word “pickles” in a reading, just so they know it is them.
Sometimes loved ones in spirit will comply with that request and other times they will not. Most of the time it backfires because we do not control how our loved ones in spirit behave or communicate, making a demand of anyone (living or deceased) usually does not get you what you want, and they have more important communications to share. The requirement to hold out for only what you want to hear creates a block and tells your loved ones in spirit that you do not want to hear what they have to say. They can then go temporarily silent because they are rejecting the attempt to control or demand certain pieces of information from them. There are a lot of lessons in that. Neither the medium nor the recipient controls what loved ones in spirit decide to bring through.
The loved one in spirit knows what the recipient needs for the growth of their soul. Letting go of the desire to control can be one of the important factors and lessons for the recipient, which is why they will not always play the game of bringing through that code word or piece of information, but will bring many other pieces of information which are unique to them. There are deep spiritual reasons for their behavior and if you are doubting the existence of Heaven, they may bring through information in a way that requires an open mind and your belief in their existence for you to receive it.
Know That They Love You
Our loved ones in spirit truly know what we need for our hearts and souls. When sitting for a reading it is best to keep an open mind and heart with zero expectations about who will be coming through, how they will come through, and the messages they will bring. By doing so, you give your loved ones in spirit permission to come through the way they need to and you allow yourself to fully receive their messages. They are privy to the bigger picture when they are sharing information with you and they can help guide you through situations of healing, improved circumstances, an understanding about our existence beyond life on Earth, and much more. Most importantly, they love you and every aspect of you, and they also want what is best for you and all whom you love.
With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?
Karen T. Hluchan is an international spirit medium, paranormal investigator, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through spirit medium readings and angel readings, speaking engagements, and workshops she instructs, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
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