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How to Have Your Prayers Answered in the Best Possible Way

August 3, 2014 by SpiritMedium 2 Comments

Each one of us has prayers and requests that we would love to have answered, whether it is for the improved health of a loved one or ourselves, for assistance with our finances, or for our relationships to improve. It can be frustrating and disheartening to see so many days, weeks, months, or even years go by without those prayers and requests being fulfilled. You may even experience uncertainty or loss of faith regarding whether your prayers and requests will be answered. I know this because I have experienced it myself. That is, until I realized that our prayers and requests are answered, just not always in the ways we think.

Life is the Accelerated Course for Soul Evolution
Every experience that we have on earth has its basis in life lessons that we selected before we were born. In heaven, there is little to no negativity. We learn lessons; however, here on earth, where we experience negativity as a result of the gift of the human ego, we opt to take the accelerated course in soul evolution. Before we are born, we work with our main soul groups in heaven to determine the lessons we will help each other learn. The details are unfurled throughout each day through an elaborate coordination of events that provides lessons and experiences for multiple people at once.

Our Prayers are in Accordance with Our Life Plans
When we make a request or say a prayer, it comes from the heart of our beings, and it is sent telepathically to our heavenly support teams. They examine our requests, which interestingly are already in alignment with the lessons we are to learn in this lifetime, and they determine how and when they can be incorporated into our lives. Sometimes, the events and conditions we ask for are not in our own best interest to receive, such as asking for a partner to return or a loved one to receive physical healing. It is not because your heavenly support team wants to deny you, it may be because the relationship you asked about has served its purpose in the evolution of your soul and it is time to move on to something better, or because the healing you requested is not part of the overall plan for the soul involved, or even you. It may be that you need to learn how to have faith in the overall scheme of life and the ways in which God and the angels answer your prayers. The healing that might be received instead is the gift of acceptance and inner peace, and a true relationship with God.

Simplistic View of a Complex Process
This is a very simplistic way to describe a complex process that involves an infinite number of minute decisions that affect the lives of millions of souls every day. I am writing about it to help you to understand that there is much more going on than meets the eye. God and our angels want the best for us and our loved ones at all times. They know what we need for the evolution of our souls, and when we make our requests, they do their best to fulfill them in the best way possible for everyone involved.

Let Go of the Need to Control Outcomes
When sending my requests and prayers, I have learned to put them out there and then let go of the need to control the outcomes. This is a challenging mindset to achieve at first, because the human ego is constantly trying to tell us that we need gratification now. You can learn how to override the ego’s voice in your head that is trying to push you into believing that you must have everything your way in this very moment. It takes practice to do this; however, the rewards include inner peace through the positive acceptance of circumstances, greater faith in your heavenly support team and the purpose of events that occur in your life, and leaving an opening for the universe to step in and deliver the answers to your requests and prayers in a way that may exceed your expectations.

Important Steps that You Can Take
Here are the steps that have helped me to release my need to control outcomes:

Learn to recognize the ego’s insistence by the anxiety it produces about the situation at hand.
Once recognized, the ego can then be consciously managed by replacing the racing thoughts and worry with more positive affirmations and concentration on living in the moment.
Add to that a belief and a knowing within your soul that everything will work out in the best way possible for you and everyone involved, whether it is in the way you imagine or not.
Be at peace with yourself and the situation, and allow yourself to be open and accepting of whatever the outcome may be. Even if that outcome is not exactly what you wanted, you are most likely going to be the recipient of something even better.
Keep your eyes open to the ways your prayers and requests are being answered. Put the pieces of the puzzle together and see how you really are receiving the answers to your prayers and requests.
If you try to manipulate the situation, you may be preventing your prayers and requests from being answered, and you may be causing yourself unnecessary misery.
Ask God and your angels to help you to release yourself from your concerns and worries. Give your concerns and worries to them with faith and trust that comes from knowing that they will handle the issues for you in the best way for all involved.
If there are action steps that you can take toward the realization of your prayers and requests, take them, as long as you are not trying to force a resolution.
If you are hitting major roadblocks when taking the action steps, it may be a sign that you are heading in a direction that may not ultimately bring you the best answers to your prayers and requests.
When you hit those major roadblocks, it may be a good time to pull back and reassess your involvement. Ask your heavenly support team for help with being at peace with your situation and wait for guidance.
1. Answers will come to you through repeated signs or messages that you perceive through your intuition, or via communications from your heavenly support team.
  1. These signs or messages may come to you through people with whom you are conversing, and they end up sharing information that provides the answers you were looking for, but did not know existed.
  2. They may also come through music you hear or physical clues you are given in the form of actual words on signs that appear before you. I love it when they provide answers on the license plates of cars, such as “HEALED,” or “LUV4U” (love for you).
  3. With your intuition, you may feel an urge to take a certain action. For instance, you may have this strong feeling to visit a certain location such as a favorite restaurant or park. While there, you may have part of your prayers or requests answered.
Take your mind off of your concerns and worries by taking part in a relaxing activity that brings you joy, whether it is a walk in the park, craft work or hobbies, or playing with your kids or pets.
Know in your heart that you are loved and that you are fully supported in your journey in life by your heavenly support team. They will send you signs periodically that they are around such as dropping feathers or coins in your path, sending butterflies as a reminder of the beauty of transformation, or other objects that remind you of the angels or loved ones in spirit.

Key Points to Remember about the Ego
As always, practice makes perfect when training yourself to replace old habits with newer, healthier ones. Keep in mind that the human ego is a challenge that we must contend with until our physical bodies expire and our spirits move on to our next destination. To keep everything in perspective, there are two very important factors to remember about the ego:

The negativity and fears produced by the ego are illusions that we are meant to learn how to manage in our lifetimes.
The spiritual strength of love is the most powerful energy in the universe, and it can be utilized in the form of self-love to manage the behavior and effects of the human ego.

Love is at the Heart of the Matter
Loving who you are is one of the best ways you can assure yourself of a happy life. Regardless of when, where, or how your prayers or requests are answered, when you love yourself, you are more likely to make decisions that are in alignment with you and your soul plan. You are also more likely to be at peace with yourself because you have learned to manage the persistent negative voice of the ego that is trying to tear you down with the illusionary fears, worries, doubts, and regrets it creates. Moreover, the closer and more loving the relationship you have with yourself, the closer and more loving your relationships grow with God and your heavenly support team.

Sending You My Love
Blessings to you, and may you find the peace within your heart to accept the love and answers to your prayers and requests in the best way possible for you and your loved ones.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Endings are New Beginnings in Disguise

June 24, 2014 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Throughout our lives, we meet many people. Some of those people will become good friends, best friends, partners, or spouses. When we welcome people into our lives, it is with the hope that the relationships will be long-lasting and bring much happiness to our lives and to the lives of the people with whom we are involved. Sometimes, though, people grow apart and discover that they are no longer compatible, or we truly see someone for who they are and not who we wish them to be. At other times, relationships gradually fizzle away because one or both parties are not actively putting in the effort to maintain the connection. Whatever the reason or the cause, it is important to know that not all relationships are meant to last a lifetime, even if that is what we hoped for and prayed for in our lifetimes.

Prayers Answered
The endings can be sad; however, they can also open up our lives to new opportunities for happiness. God and the archangels hear our prayers, and they know what would ultimately bring us greater happiness in the long run. The ending of a relationship may be their way of making room in your life for someone or something better. The ending may be temporary, or it may be permanent. Either way, when the ending occurs, ask God and the archangels to help you deal with the change. If you need more faith to believe in the positive outcome of the situation, ask for it. If you need help healing your heart, ask for it. Be open to the assistance you receive. It may come in the form of a calmness in your heart caused by the gentle acceptance of the situation, or it may come in the form of a friend or family member who helps you through the challenging times

Trust the Path You Are On
To help yourself to heal and make the most of your experiences with a relationship that has ended or is in the process of ending, take a look at the relationship as a whole to see what you have learned from the experience. Express gratitude for the lessons learned and the love shared, express forgiveness to yourself and others, allow yourself time to heal, and then move forward with your life with the mindset of an adventurer. New experiences and people await discovery in your life’s journey, and by opening your heart and your mind, you give yourself the opportunity to embrace the changes that are a part of your soul’s evolution. Let go and let God steer the ship for a while. He is an excellent captain to have at the helm, especially when stormy seas are tossing you around. God will bring you safely into harbor, where you can explore the adventures that await you through the new people you meet and the situations you encounter.

Look Forward to New Beginnings
Remember, endings are new beginnings in disguise. In order to make room in your life for your prayers to be answered, sometimes it is necessary for one relationship or situation to end before another, more positive, experience can begin.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Why Comparing Yourself to Others Is a Waste of Time

March 30, 2014 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Have you ever wondered, “How come everyone else seems to get what they want? What about me? When is it going to be my turn?”

At times, it may seem as though others are getting what they want, and that you are being left out in the cold. However, if you look closely, you will see that is not the case.

Life Paths are Unique
First and foremost, comparing your life path to another’s is a waste of your precious time. Each person on this earth has his or her own path to follow. You have not lived another’s life, and therefore, cannot possibly know all of the circumstances they have faced and will face as a result of his or her actions. Additionally, there may have been a soul contract in place that dictates that one person behaves in a certain way in order to help others with life lessons. In other cases, you do not know the specific steps that a person took to get where they are today. It may seem as though a particular person is having everything handed to them; however, they may have spent years working diligently to establish themselves, and you are seeing the end result of his or her work.

Behavior with Consequences
In the case of people who bully, push, or lie their way into getting what they want, they are not to be envied. He or she may temporarily receive the reward they desired, but at what cost? This type of behavior is destroying the relationships that this person has with others. One of our main purposes in life is to develop loving, healthy relationships with one another. In my book, How Have You Loved?, I describe how the title of the book is the most important question we are asked when we review our lives in heaven. This lifetime, and every lifetime that we experience, is about the love that we share with ourselves and others. People who consciously hurt others to get what they want are truly hurting themselves in the end.

It May Be a Soul Contract
As I mentioned above, there may also be a soul contract in place. The contract may have to do with helping someone to cope with feelings of loss, to learn how to overcome setbacks, or to help someone to understand that there is more to life than material possessions. We make these contracts in heaven before we are born on this earth. Any knowledge that we had about them was purposefully obscured from us at birth. When major events occur in our lives, it is possible to see how certain actions and circumstances may have been the direct result of a soul contract. By keeping this in the back of your mind, it is easier to forgive yourself and others for actions taken.

Open to Abundance and Reward for Efforts
For others who just seem to have things handed to them, it could have a lot to do with their state of mind being open to receiving abundance. It may also have to do with a lot of hard work he or she performed to get where they are today. Again, you do not know what someone’s life path is or what they have experienced in order to be the recipient of great gifts of love, time, money, or opportunities.

Focus on You
Instead of concerning yourself with the actions of others, your time and energies would be better spent concentrating on your own life path and actions. Be grateful for what you do have in your life and enjoy the journey. You cannot control what others do or receive, but you can control the actions you take, as well as your thought processes. When you align yourself with the loving energies of your spirit, you are more likely to take beneficial actions that will lead you toward your heart’s desires. Patience may be needed; however, God and your angels know what it is that you truly desire. They have heard your prayers, and are diligently working on answering them.

Relax and Remain Open to Unexpected Solutions
Take a deep breath and relax. Take delight in the people, places, and things that surround you now, and know that all good things come to you through timing that is determined by heaven. Because of their elevated viewpoint, your heavenly support team knows when the timing is just right for you to receive the answers to your prayers. They also know what would be best for you in the long run. If it appears as though your prayers are not being answered, they are; although, it may be in a different way than you think. What you have prayed for will ultimately be fulfilled; however, it is up to your Creator to determine how it will happen and when.

Benefiting Many
More often than not, there are other people who will also benefit from the positive circumstances that are coming your way. It is important to understand that it takes time to orchestrate the necessary circumstances for everyone involved. Be patient and have faith that your time to receive will come at the perfect moment for the development of your soul—with the added benefit of helping others at the same time. Enjoy the blessings!

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

What to Do When Past Pain Resurfaces

February 16, 2014 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

As we go through our lives working through challenging personal situations, healing from them, and accepting them for the lessons they taught us, the old pain that you released may rise to the surface again when we least expect it. Days, months, or even years after you think you have successfully handled the feelings and emotions from the past, you may encounter a situation that is reminiscent of the ones you thought you had a handle on.

Thrown Off Balance
At first, you may be thrown off balance as thoughts and emotions from the past threaten to overwhelm you. However, you are not encountering this situation for the first time. You have already been through this, and you have already learned better ways of handling this situation. For instance, let’s say you are in a situation in which you feel that a person with a forceful personality is trying to manipulate you by insulting you, belittling you, demeaning you, or twisting your words around to suit their needs. Having dealt with this in the past, you are more likely to recognize the manipulative techniques that this person is trying to employ. While it may make you upset to find yourself dealing again with someone who displays this type of negative behavior, you may actually be handling it better than you think.

Reacting Differently through Assertiveness and Love
In this particular situation, it is important to note that the person who is attempting to be manipulative is acting from a place of fear and ego. He or she is not acting from a place of love. It is this person’s intention to force you to bend to his or her will because he or she is afraid of losing power. What this person does not realize is that the perceived power has already been given away the moment he or she decided to allow fear to take over his or her thought processes. When you recognize this, you can choose to react in a manner that does not feed into the fear that this person is projecting. By knowing who you are, you can stand up for yourself in an assertive manner, which is representative of the love that you have for yourself. It is important to note that reacting with aggression, rather than assertion, will only feed into the negative behavior of the other person and drive the situation away from a positive resolution. Stand strong and confident in the love that you have for you, and for the positive and fair resolution of the problem for all involved.

Forgiveness Ushers in Healing
Try not to be upset with yourself if you initially get angry or distraught over the circumstances you are facing. It can be very challenging to deal with situations that are similar to those that brought you pain in the past. Allow yourself to acknowledge your feelings, and then release them. Be at peace with yourself. In your heart and mind, forgive yourself and the person who treated you in this manner, and let go of toxic feelings. Holding a grudge will only serve to hurt you and prevent you from moving forward. Pray for this person’s health and happiness, and let go of the negativity by recognizing that this person has not yet learned to operate from a place of love. Your prayers may help them to move forward, which will mean one more person in this world who embraces the light and love of which we are all a part.

Help Is Available
If you need help working through the emotions and feelings that have arisen from the situation that triggered the resurfacing of past pain, ask God and your angels for help, and speak with friends and family members who are supportive of you and your goals.

Silver Linings
No matter how negative a situation may appear on the surface, there are positive reasons for why they occur in our lives. Once we have lived through the challenging circumstances, we can look back to see what we have learned and decide which route we are going to take if we encounter them again. Situations that rehash pain from the past is not a punishment, but rather an opportunity to put into practice the lessons we have learned and to confirm the growth that has taken place within our spirits.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Ending Situations That Bring You More Harm than Good

January 5, 2014 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Each one of us has experienced painful and challenging situations that we wanted to end, such as an unhealthy relationship or job situation. Fear of the unknown or of loss can sometimes make us feel as though we are trapped with no pathway to freedom and happiness. The illusion of being caged in is a product of our egos, the negative voice of fear that does its best to prevent us from believing in ourselves and our dreams. It will keep you locked in its dark grip if you allow those fearful thoughts and emotions to rule your life. The choice is entirely up to you.

In each situation you encounter, there are positive resolutions available. The challenge is to quiet the negative voice of the ego, in order to look at the situation from a more objective point of view. Nothing in this world is impossible. It is our beliefs, thoughts, and motivations that determine our destinies. While you may not be able to control external factors, you can control how you act and react to situations you encounter on a daily basis.

When you are faced with an important decision, take the time to think about your true desired outcomes. At the heart of it all, what is it that you really want? Is it a job in which you can utilize your skills in an environment that is supportive of you and your career goals? Is it a loving relationship in which you and your partner enjoy mutual respect, love, and passion?

Take an objective look at your current situation. Are you already receiving what you desire but have not been recognizing it because of petty disagreements and nitpicking? Or is your job or relationship truly dissatisfying at a very deep level because your essential needs and desires are not being met? Have you shared your concerns with your employer or partner? Are they willing to work on improving the situation or have your requests for cooperative efforts been ignored?

If small issues are clouding your vision, these can be worked on as they are temporary problems that can be overcome with compassion, forgiveness, and efforts to meet each person’s needs within the situation. If the problem is much larger than that and your requests for assistance have gone unanswered, then this is an important sign that a significant change needs to be made. You need to decide whether it is better for you to remain miserable or to end the situation in a respectful manner and take a chance on the unknown with the hope and belief that there are opportunities for better jobs or relationships for you.

Making a significant change in your life does require a leap of faith. It may seem as though it is an uphill battle, and some sacrifices will need to be made; however, if you make these changes for yourself, you and others in this situation will be rewarded in the end because you are taking responsibility for your own happiness, which will also release others to find theirs. Taking this leap requires that you trust and believe in yourself, your feelings, and your ability to make decisions that are in alignment with your soul plan.

You do not have to walk your path alone. God and the angels are there to help you during this time of transition. Share your true desires and intentions with them. Let them know what it is that you really need or are looking for in your relationships or job situations. They know your heart and hear your thoughts.

God and your angels want what is best for you. They will answer your prayers if you allow them to step into your situation. The answers they provide will come through your intuition, repetitive thoughts or ideas, and external signs. Pay attention to the conversations that you have with others, the songs that you hear, repetitive symbols and signs that have meaning for you, and your gut feelings. These are some of the methods that they will chose to send their answers to you. For instance, a stranger may start up a conversation with you in line at the grocery store and he mentions that he is so much happier now that he ended a relationship or left a dead-end job situation, friends or acquaintances may tell you about a job opportunity that matches your skills, or you may even meet someone who has many of the characteristics you desire in a romantic partner.

As you release the past, and extend forgiveness toward yourself and others for situations that did not work out the way you envisioned, remain alert and aware of the messages you are receiving. In this way, you will be guided toward situations that are much better suited to you and the outcomes you desire.

With great blessings, love, and peace to those of you who are facing important crossroads in your lives. May you see the light that is guiding you toward your dreams and true happiness within your heart.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Staying Strong in Spite of Setbacks

December 29, 2013 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Sometimes it seems as though God is delaying the granting of your dreams and answers to your prayers. He is not being mean or cruel to you. Instead, he is preparing the way for you by clearing out obstacles that would have prevented you from living your dreams. Having patience and waiting for his perfect timing may cause you to feel frustration, especially if you feel as though the answers to your prayers have taken a long time to be answered.

Know that God and the angels are working on your behalf. While you are waiting for them to clear your path, take the time to take care of you. Meditate, take care of tasks and responsibilities that need to get done, and take time to play and to participate in activities that bring you joy and happiness.

You are surrounded by your deceased loved ones and angels during this time. They know the waiting can be stressful; however, they are telling you to take a deep relaxing breath and appreciate what is before you right now. The time is coming for your prayers to be answered and your dreams to come true. You just need to hold on a little while longer with hope, faith, and trust in your heart.

Release your concerns to God and your angels, and allow yourself to rest easy. They will not deny you what you most desire in this lifetime. God and your angels support your love-based dreams and prayers. Allow them to do their work by taking care of yourself and your well being. If you have been working too hard, then take time out to play and enjoy yourself. If you have been letting responsibilities slide, then it is time to work on the tasks on your list. As you go about your activities, be open and receptive to the messages that will be sent to you via your intuition, as this is how your next steps will be provided for the manifestation of your dreams and prayers.

When you move forward with absolute trust in the positive outworking of your affairs through faith in your heavenly support team, you will be rewarded in ways that exceed your expectations. For now, place your hands over your heart and take a deep breath in through your nose. As the air enters your body, envision positive energy flowing into your spirit. As you exhale through your mouth, envision yourself releasing all negative and fearful thoughts and expectations. The negative energies will dissipate and be transformed into loving energy by your angels as they are released from your spirit. Repeat this breathing exercise at least three to five times or until you feel a peaceful calm settle over you. By doing so, you are freeing yourself from continual striving, stress, and worry in order to allow God and the angels to step into your situation.

Enjoy the blessing of this day. Your heavenly support team is by your side with each and every step that you take. Trust in their love, and have faith that they will correct situations for you by removing harmful influences or obstacles that are hampering your progress. It is time to welcome the positive into your life by appreciating the beautiful spirit that you are in an environment that is safe, and full of love and blessings.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

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