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Recognizing when a Problem is not Your Responsibility

September 29, 2013 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

There are situations that you will encounter in which it seems as though you are powerless to lend a hand. When facing a dilemma such as this, you can share your love, an empathetic ear, and your kindness. Gifts of the heart can have a profound effect on those that are struggling with life-altering decisions and emotionally painful conditions.

Choices that are Not Yours to Make
No matter how much you want to help someone, there are times when the only help you can offer comes from the heart. This may be because the choices that need to be made in the situation are not yours to make. A prime example would be relationship decisions that friends or relatives need to act upon, such as whether the time has come to break-up or divorce. Other examples include tough choices concerning medical conditions and the mental or emotional health of loved ones. It can be challenging to be an observer to someone else’s pain, especially when it seems as though you can do nothing to ease it.

An Important Contribution
As an observer of a difficult situation that your loved ones are experiencing, you can offer your love, kindness, your listening skills, and prayers. This kind of support can be an invaluable source of positive energy that is not only needed, but also desired. Advice and insight can also be offered; however, the person receiving it may or may not be receptive to it. This may be because he or she is having a hard time incorporating a new perspective. Stubbornness, a strong desire to control outcomes, lack of trust, or an ingrained sense of loyalty are often obstacles to a person’s ability to move beyond a problem. Moreover, even if you offer advice, it may not be an appropriate fit for the situation at hand because you may not be privy to all of the details. Do your best to avoid taking offense if your loved one does not utilize your well-meaning solutions because, ultimately, each person is responsible for his or her own choices. We all must live with the consequences of the decisions that we make. As an alternative to dispensing advice, try listening with empathy and allowing the person to talk about his or her feelings. This may be enough to help him or her to relieve some of the pressure surrounding the situation that is causing the angst.

Love Heals
Do your best not to underestimate or minimize the effect and power of love. Its positive energy can heal a broken heart, provide hope for the future, and offer comfort to those who are experiencing pain. Love is shared and communicated with one another through the heart of our soul. You can send that positive energy to your loved ones with your thoughts and prayers, as well as with physical expressions, such as a hug or soothing touch.

Even when it seems as though there is little that you can offer to someone who is struggling or suffering, remember that love is one of the best gifts that you can give…and it is an energy that you have an infinite supply of to share.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Happiness is a Choice

June 30, 2013 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Ultimately, you are responsible for your own happiness. This is because you are in full control of how you react to situations and people. That is the only thing that you are in control of—your actions or reactions to the environment around you. When a seemingly negative event occurs, you can choose to let the negativity take over your psyche or you can opt to look for the positive in the situation and what you can learn from it. There are always healthy, positive lessons that can be learned from experiences that appear negative on the surface. The key to happiness is in choosing to look past the immediate negativity of circumstances in order to see the blessing that is intended for your soul’s progression.

There are people that I have encountered that never seem to be happy, even when what they have asked for is delivered to them. When their dreams and answers to their prayers are delivered to them, they pick them apart, overlooking the positive and diving deep to find something to complain about. Most of the time, it is some small nitpicky detail that most people wouldn’t think twice about; however, they choose to blow it out of proportion and decide to let it ruin their experience. For whatever reason, these people CHOOSE to live their lives in misery and often blame other people and circumstances for their problems. What they are not seeing is that they are the one ones responsible for their actions and reactions. Sure, other people may cause a negative situation to appear in your life; however, you do not have to let it take you down a path of destruction and self-pity. You can choose to recognize the situation for what it is, determine the path you are going to take to improve the situation, and learn from it. Our reactions will then determine our personal level of happiness. It is entirely up to us whether we mire ourselves in negativity or choose a more positive path.

For example, I recently experienced a situation where my flight was delayed due to inclement weather. I could’ve crabbed and complained about the situation; however, what would that have accomplished? Would it have changed the flight schedule and removed the delay? No. Would it have stopped the severe lightning storms that caused the delay? Again, the answer is no. I chose instead to look at the situation in a more positive light. Maybe I would meet interesting people while waiting for the next flight and/or use that extra time to work on my blog, read my book, or relax. As it turns out, I did meet some interesting people. There is always a reason for the situations we encounter, whether they are positive or negative. If I had decided to embrace the negativity instead of the positive of the situation, I might have missed out on opportunities because I would have been too mired in my own complaining that I wouldn’t have been open to what was being offered to me…interesting conversation and time to relax after a busy week of travel. In addition, I was happier knowing that the FAA was holding off on our flight for safety reasons. When we did get off the ground, the flight was less turbulent than it would’ve been had we flown right into the storms. Again, it was a blessing in disguise.

When I encounter people who brood and wallow in negativity, I choose not to let these people bring me down. Both positivity and negativity are infectious. I may attempt to counter their negative comments with positive ones and a bright smile; however, if they return my kindness with more negativity, I simply walk away and continue to enjoy my day by taking responsibility for my own happiness. I don’t need or want to be in a foul mood; therefore, I choose not to get sucked in to someone else’s choices to be in one by removing myself from the situation. It is not that I am giving up on this person, it is that I am recognizing and appreciating the fact that they alone are responsible for their happiness and, at the moment, they are choosing to take a road of misery that is one road upon which I don’t want to travel. Why would I when there are so many great opportunities to experience joy and happiness every day of our lives?

By choosing to be happy, you are not only opening yourself up to wonderful opportunities and experiences, but you are also showing your Heavenly Support Team your appreciation and gratitude for the gifts they bestow upon you every day. Complaining about a gift is a great way to ensure you won’t get another and it will also alienate you from the givers and the people around you…which you could always complain about, or you can choose to move beyond the negativity and open yourself up to the life you were meant to live with happiness and joy. It’s what God and the Angels want for all of us. The choice is completely up to us regarding whether or not we choose to accept their gifts.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Falling in Love with Your True Self

June 23, 2013 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Would you marry you? Not just, do you love yourself, but are you IN LOVE with yourself? And by that I mean, do you truly love who you are inside and out, great qualities and flaws, the whole package…as you do when you are in love with someone else? This is not about ego saying you are the greatest thing since sliced bread, but about you having the joyful feeling of true love for yourself. Do you love who you are? Every aspect, even your shortcomings? Do you forgive yourself when you have done wrong, as you would another? Do you encourage yourself, as you do others? Do you thank yourself and give gratitude to yourself for learning important lessons and being able to see the positive in situations that were challenging to handle?

Being Your Own Best Friend
When a friend is upset or feeling down about relationship problems or a mistake that they had made, do you berate them and make them feel worse about themselves? Or do you comfort them by helping them to see the actions that they took that were positive and help them to see the silver lining or higher purpose for the events that took place? Most of us would when lend an ear and provide kindness and understanding. So, why is it that when we are having problems or make mistakes that our inner critic goes into overdrive and we berate ourselves for the difficult circumstances that we face?

In order to turn that pattern of thinking around, I recommend thinking of yourself as your own best friend. When you find yourself mentally and emotionally beating yourself up, stop. Think about what you would do if it was your best friend in a similar situation. Ask yourself what you would say to them or do for them and do that for yourself instead. Be kind and honest with yourself. Know that you did the best that you could under the circumstances that you faced and let go of the angst. Learn from your mistakes and know that you will do better next time because you have honestly assessed the situation and have learned what didn’t work. That knowledge is invaluable as it will help you to blaze new trails by trying out different solutions, move in a new direction, and/or open up new opportunities for you to grow.

Falling in Love
Back in October, I had a Spirit Medium reading given to me by my friend, Valerie, in which my deceased Dad came through. He said, “You have to marry yourself first.” When Valerie asked me if I understood, I said, “yes.” At the time, I thought it meant just to love myself for who I was, but now I know that my Dad meant that I needed to fall in love with myself first and everything else would fall into place. Truly loving who you are is the same as loving God. It is an acknowledgment of the wonderful gift that he has given you – the creation of your Spirit.

Your relationship with yourself and with God greatly affects your life and determines the path that you will take. The closer your relationship is with yourself, the closer you are with God. You are Him and He is you. All of our Spirits are connected through the light that is within each one of us…and that light comes from God, our Creator.

Sharing the Love
Once you have truly established a loving relationship with yourself and God, all other relationships will follow because you are at peace with who you really are, both internally and externally. Other people see and recognize that peace within you and are naturally drawn to the true you that you are radiating out to the world. Additionally, when you are at peace with yourself, it is easier to share your heart and joy with others. At the same time, it is easier for you to accept love from others because you know that you are worthy of receiving gracious gifts and abundance.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

How to Interpret Your Dreams – Part One

May 26, 2013 by SpiritMedium 1 Comment

There are many books out there about dream interpretation, such as dream dictionaries, that try to help you to determine what your dreams are about. The problem with those dictionaries is that the definitions for the symbols and objects within the book may not ring true for you. The most effective way to interpret your dreams is to do it yourself, because only you know what the symbols mean to you.

There are many theories about what dreams really are…such as random images brought forth from our subconscious, etc. To me, dreams are an interesting phenomenon brought forth from our higher self, as well as from your Heavenly support team of deceased loved ones, the Angels, God, etc. Dreams utilize the myriad of images, feelings, and thoughts within our databank of memories to create story lines that are played out while we sleep. These seemingly random visions can be interpreted with an open mind and lots of practice, practice, practice.

Some of you may be thinking, “but I don’t dream.” Science has proven that we all dream several times per sleep session during the R.E.M cycle (see https://science.howstuffworks.com/life/what-are-dreams.htm for the scientific take on dreams). The reason we don’t remember them may have to do with when we wake up in our sleep cycles (see the previous link for information about dream cycles). However, I have found that if I make a conscious effort to remember them, I do remember at least one upon waking. In doing so, I am telling my body to wake up during the R.E.M. cycle. Before I go to sleep, I tell myself that I would like to remember my dreams upon waking. Don’t worry if it doesn’t happen right away, keep trying and you will succeed. You can also ask your Angels for help. They would be glad to assist you.

In preparation for my dream remembrance, I keep a notebook and a pen, my iPad or a voice recorder by my bedside. Having a readily available source for recording your dreams is important. Once you get up and start your day, the details of your dream may begin to fade fast. If you record it as soon as you wake up, you will be able to capture more detail.

When recording your dream, especially when you are writing it down, do not worry about grammar or spelling, just write down everything you can recall as quickly as possible. Think of it like James Joyce’s stream of consciousness…write it down however it comes to you with as much detail as possible.

The next action you take is to set it aside. Do not try to interpret your dream right away! Set it aside and forget all about it for a few hours or a day. When you are ready to pick it up again for interpretation, it is important for you to have an open mind because you are going to use word association to decipher your message.

Throughout this week, work on actively trying to remember your dreams. When you do, record them. Next week, I will be sharing with you methods for deciphering the messages that your dreams are conveying. Until then, happy dreaming!

Namaste!

With Light and Love, Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Knowing You’re Not Alone on Your Journey Through Life

May 19, 2013 by SpiritMedium 1 Comment

Have you ever felt as though you are all alone in this world, facing the challenges of life? I have felt that in my lifetime, especially when I was going through a particularly tough time. It felt as though there was no one around who understood what I was going through or who could be there for me to listen or to provide comfort. I have learned that throughout my trials and tribulations, I have never truly been alone…and neither are you. You have a support system in Heaven that comes from the Creator, the Angels, your Spirit Guides, Past Spiritual Masters, and deceased loved ones. They are there for you. They see your struggles and worries. They hear your prayers. They feel your pain and want to ease it for you. They also share your joy and happiness. In essence, they are there for you in good times and in bad.

You can reach out to your heavenly support system at any time through prayer in thought, said out loud, or in writing. Ask them for help with the situation at hand. They hear you and will do what they can to answer your prayers, as long are they are in accordance with your soul plan and greater good. If what you are praying for will ultimately cause you greater sadness and pain, or send you down a path that would do more harm than good, your heavenly support team will do their best to guide you to better opportunities that meet your true needs and desires. For example, if you are praying for the return of a lost love and that person doesn’t return right away, it may seem as though your prayers weren’t heard or answered…but they have, just not in the way that you may think.

Sometimes it takes time for prayers to be answered. The timing is not based on what we think is best, but on the perfect timing for the evolution of our souls. Sometimes, too, we may not get what we asked for because there is something better coming along for us. Even though we do not always recognize the help that is materializing from our heavenly team, we can help ourselves by having patience and an open mind about how our prayers will be answered. With the situation involving a lost love, God and the Angels know that what you are really asking for is someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are. That person may or may not be ready to do that at the time of your prayer and/or there may be lessons that each of you still need to learn before progress can be made. It can also be that you were only meant to be together to learn particular lessons and now you need to move on. Or, the timing may be perfect for your souls to reunite and they will return to you. We can assist in the answering of our prayers by being mindful about our actions and looking at our experiences to see what lessons we need to learn from them. By taking responsibility for ourselves in this way, we are actively playing an important role in our soul’s evolutional process.

Keep in mind that our support team in Heaven sees and knows much more than we do here on Earth. They know everything about us and what would be best for the evolution of our soul. Therefore, when you ask for help know that they are working on your behalf and that they send you their love. They are always there for you when you need them…all you have to do is reach out with your thoughts and prayers, knowing that your heart’s desires have been heard and will be answered with the perfect timing that is guided by your support team in Heaven. In the meantime, find your center, be at peace with yourself, and know that you are not alone on your journey through this lifetime.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Unity, Peace and Love

April 21, 2013 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

It was amazing and wonderful to see so many people working as one this week in the face of the tragic events in Boston. As two misinformed and misguided young men wreaked havoc in an attempt to devastate our country and its people, we stood shoulder-to-shoulder and helped each other physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

We drew together as a people and lent a hand to help those in need, to do what we could to restore order and calm. Citizens closest to the scenes gave physical aid and comfort, sent their pictures from the race to the authorities, and kept their eyes and ears open for signs of these men and potential threats to our peace. Those of us at a distance sent our prayers, reposted the pictures of the young men on social media outlets, and lent the support of our hearts, our wallets, and our life-giving blood. Furthermore, people in law enforcement and emergency responders went above and beyond the call of duty. They are to be commended for their quick, cooperative responses and actions in the face of such unstable conditions and adversity.

Instead of allowing fear to drive us apart, we pulled together as we did following the events of September 11th. As a nation and as beings who ultimately want to live in peace, we banded together to stop the spread of fear by countering it with love and assistance for our fellow people. We prayed, helped those in need, and cooperated with the professionals trained to protect our safety.

As I prayed for the people who were directly affected by the events and for our nation as a whole, I also prayed for these young men who were taught somewhere along the way that violence and hatred were the answers to life’s problems. I prayed to God and the Angels, asking them to help these men, and anyone else like them, to understand that fear-driven ideology is counterproductive and counterintuitive to our purposes here on Earth.

Each and every day, we can continually strive to live in unity and peace with one another by sharing the love and compassion within our hearts. The more we do this, the better the world will be for all of us. There will still be those that turn to violence and fear, but if we counter it like we did with the events of Boston this week, we will be able to more quickly counter, and even prevent, future events designed to devastate our peace.

My prayer today, and every day, is for all of us to live in Love and to help each other experience the Light within each and every one of our hearts. Blessings and peace to all.

With Light and Love,
Karen

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