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Messages from Heaven

Messages from the Other Side: The Soul Importance of Expressing and Showing Love

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I love you!Heaven is a place filled with love and knowledge. When our loved ones cross over into heaven, they experience an awakening as they review their lives and realize the impact of their actions while on earth. I cannot even begin to count the number of times people have come through in spirit asking for forgiveness for the lack of love that they showed or expressed when they were here. This type of message is not only to ease the hearts of those receiving it, but also to teach us about the vital importance of expressing and showing our love to one another while we are living on earth.

Generators of Positive Energy

Everything we are and everything we do is based in love. We are created from the supreme power of love by our Creator, and we are meant to continue to generate the purity of that love through the actions we take on a daily basis. As souls on a human journey, we face many challenges here on earth. It is the relationships and love we cultivate that helps us through the dark times and brings us great joy when we celebrate the light. We are truly here to help one another. All of the mundane problems of everyday life are but catalysts to encourage us to work through our problems together; to search out and find the love that is already there in the hearts of all of our spirits.

You Can Take It with You

When we cross over into heaven, we take with us our spirit and the love that connects us with the special people and animals in our lives. The expiration of our physical bodies on earth is not an ending, but a new beginning on a different plane. Within our spirits, we carry the love, knowledge, and relationships we cultivated throughout our lifetimes. Because love is our reason for being and one of the few things we take with us when we go, it makes sense that sharing and expressing our love is vital to our souls. It also explains why our guys and gals in heaven repeatedly send messages about the importance of expressing and showing our love to one another.

Overcoming Fears of Intimacy

Do you hesitate to tell someone you love them? If so, why is it so difficult to say it? Is it because you were raised in an environment in which love was not expressed? Is it because you were hurt in a relationship or relationships in which you loved and it was not returned? The fears that prevent you from sharing your heart were put in place as a challenge for you. The challenge in this type of life lesson is to overcome your fears in order to realize that love is everywhere, and the more you share, the more you receive in return. At first, it may feel awkward or uncomfortable to let your guard down and be vulnerable with someone; however, with the right person, the risk is worth the rewards. Even if someone does not feel the same way you do, at least you expressed the feelings in your heart. You can feel good about that, knowing you have done your best by communicating and sharing the love within your heart for another, whether it is a friend, family member, or significant other.

Giving Gifts from the Soul

For those on the receiving end of a loving message or gesture, it is a blessing and a gift from the soul. Even if you think someone already knows that you love them, show them and tell them anyway. Each person is a unique being, and we cannot profess to know all that is going on within another person’s mind; however, by clearly communicating your feelings, you effectively remove any question someone may have about how you feel about them. Think about how many times you may have agonized about how someone feels about you. Wouldn’t it have been great if you had received clarity directly from that person? This is the gift you can give others when you clearly communicate your feelings in a way that can be heard and accepted by others.

Clear Communication Coupled with Positive Actions

More often than not, it is communication problems that lead to the demise of a relationship. Instead of withholding your feelings out of fear, express them in healthy ways. Tell the people you care about that you love them, and show them your love through your actions. For instance, do something for them that brings a smile to their face, such as making a handmade gift, completing a task or responsibility that will give them free time to relax, or scheduling time for a special experience that will create happy memories. Each one of us wants to be loved, accepted, and appreciated for who we are, and if you are not giving or receiving that in your relationships, it is time for a heart-to-heart conversation about each person’s needs, as well as potential solutions for improving the relationship. If, after the talk, the individuals involved do not follow through or make an effort to improve the situation within a reasonable amount of time, it may be that he or she is not truly vested in the relationship. At that point, you may need to make a decision about whether or not the relationship is worth pursuing.

Remember to Love Who You Are

As you are sharing your love with others, be sure to be kind and loving toward yourself. Schedule time to participate in activities you enjoy, including hobbies, exercise, reading, sports, meditation, and more. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to another. Love is what we are here for, love is what we are, and love is the only thing we take with us when it is time for us to return to heaven.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

Trust Your Soul

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Trust Your SoulThere are times when we get stuck in our own heads with negative, self-defeating thoughts that conjure up feelings of hopelessness and despair. It is at these times that it may feel as though the universe is against us and all of our plans and dreams. Even though this is not the case, the persistence of these thoughts may block out any acknowledgement of positive accomplishments and beliefs. Having faith in the future, in God, and in others may seem next to impossible. It is at times like these when we need to trust our souls.

Wealth of Information

Our souls carry a wealth of information about the numerous lives we have lived in the past, blueprints for our current lifetime, and future plans for our existence beyond this life on earth. It is not a story of despair and endless pain, but one of triumph, divine design, and blessings yet to come. Each experience we have is manufactured to encourage growth on the soul level. The subsequent expansion of knowledge helps us take the next steps forward, enables us to use our experiences to help others, and builds within us a spiritual strength and fortitude to counteract the negativity that attempts to block our faith in that which cannot be seen but nevertheless exists.

The Battle Within

During our low times, it may seem as though the battle between light and darkness is a never-ending epic fight. In essence, though, we can reduce it to minor skirmishes by reminding ourselves of the larger picture, searching for the positive in trying circumstances, and surrounding ourselves with loving people who we can count on to guide us out of the darkness with sage advice, a willing ear, and a comforting shoulder to cry on. The relationships we build need to be reciprocal. Meaning we, too, must be willing to assist others during their times of need. Establishing relationships with a healthy balance of giving and receiving encourages trust, which increases the sharing of love and reduces the impact of stressful situations.

Learning How to Let Go and Let God

Another way to release the hold negative thoughts can have on us is to learn how to let go of the internal struggle and trust that the circumstances we face are of greater importance than what appears on the surface. Even though events might not turn out the way we would have preferred, they will serve as divinely important lessons for our souls, and that, my friends, is why we are here—to become better souls through all of the experiences in life, including the good, the bad, the joyous, and the sad. Our souls know the life lessons we signed up for, and when we learn how to recognize the benefits of all circumstances, we are working in tandem with God’s ultimate plans for us—which are beautiful and full of light and love.

Just for Today

Just for today, let it be okay that you do not have all of the answers or know what the future holds. Work on trusting in the divine plan imprinted within your soul that has your best interests at heart, and know that change ushers in growth and allows for the manifestation of your most heartfelt desires.

 

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

Ghosts and Spirits – Scary or Enlightening?

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Ghosts and SpiritsGhosts and spirits have a job. It is not, as many believe, to frighten or harm us, but rather to remind us that there is more to this universe than our small earthly world. Experiences with ghosts and spirits are one of the methods utilized by our heavenly support teams to expand our thoughts beyond the mundane on earth to that which exists beyond the ordinary experiences we have each day.

Fears Fuel the Imagination

Some people are afraid of the unknown and automatically express fear at experiencing anything out of the ordinary. That fear multiplies and imaginations go wild to the point where people think ghosts are coming after them with the intent to do harm. Allowing your fears to overtake you has the potential to escalate and amplify them. Also, when we are taken by surprise, our survival instincts kick in, shooting adrenaline throughout our bodies. The quick influx of adrenaline triggers an alert throughout our systems for potential dangers. This does not mean that true dangers exist, though. It is more of a startle reflex in which all of the senses are heightened, meaning that anything we see, such as a flash of light, or hear, such as a twig breaking, are amplified. When fear takes over, these experiences can seem ominous.

Mischievous But Not Harmful

Spirits can be mischievous, especially if they liked having fun when they were alive on earth. Just as God uses the soul evolvement of the living to fulfill soul contracts, God also employs those in spirit who are on different levels of soul evolvement to help those on earth. For instance, a friend of mine in spirit likes to “borrow” objects from my house, only to return them two weeks later in the vicinity in which they disappeared. My friend’s mischievous fun is characteristic of his personality and his antics taught me valuable lessons about objects transported between dimensions. In addition to borrowing objects, spirits can utilize energy to move items, pipe scents into the air, blink lights, and freeze up electronic objects like cellphones, your cable box, and more.  At times, spirits like to revisit places that were important to their lives – whether they were positive or negative experiences. Deep emotional connections with people, places, and objects are what attract spirits to particular locations. They love to connect with us and communicate their histories or messages of import.

Powerful Illusions

It is very important to note that I have never encountered any being in spirit who was intent on harming me. While they employ interesting tactics for capturing my attention, they have never brought me harm. To me reports of demons and demonic encounters are tricks of the mind based on emotional fears of the unknown. One of the topics I write about in my book, How Have You Loved?, is how fear can create powerful illusions that seem real. We can bring fearful thoughts to life if we give them power. For instance, when visiting a Halloween hayride or haunted house, people can become truly frightened by the actors, props, and scenery, even though they know it is all an illusion. The same is true when people are experiencing unexplained phenomenon. The first thoughts that they may have are that “demons’ must be present. Spirits that may be perceived as malicious could be those who have not immediately crossed over into heaven and who may be frustrated with their situation of not being in heaven and not having a physical existence on earth. All they need is compassion and assistance with crossing over into heaven.

Energetic Impressions

When people report seeing spirits or ghosts performing the same actions over and over again, it is often left over energy that plays like a recording. There is no interaction with this type of ghost because it is not the actual spirit but something akin to a hologram. This type of phenomena occurs in locations where this being experienced strong emotional reactions to events. An energetic impression of what they were doing at the time of the event is left behind, which can sometimes be seen, felt, or heard by those whose who are sensitive to extrasensory energies.

What You Can Do When You Encounter a Ghost or Spirit

When you are experiencing other-worldly visits, my best advice is for you to relax. It is most likely one of your loved ones in spirit that is stopping by to say hello. If you are visiting a historic location or see people in spirit you do not recognize, such as a man, woman or child dressed in period clothing, I recommend relaxing and viewing the situation from a place of curiosity and compassion. Your ability to see, feel, hear, taste or smell communications from spirits indicates that your channel is open and your “light” is shining, indicating sensitivity to extrasensory energies.

If you do not wish to communicate with spirits, you can let them know that by thinking it or saying it out loud. There is no need to raise your voice or be rude. Simply state it in a matter of fact way and ask them to leave you alone. If you feel the need for extra assistance, call on Archangel Michael to protect you and remove them from your presence. Most of the time, though, spirits want to communicate a message that will help you or someone else. If you are having experiences with spirit often, or would like to know more about how spirits communicate, I highly recommend that you learn about it. There are many dependable resources from professional spirit mediums that will help you to understand more about the world of spirit. You can increase your knowledge through books, classes, and workshops.

Much can be Learned from Spirits

From the ancient peoples of the past to the people of today, there has been a cultural connection with the world of spirits. The fascination that people have with ghosts, spirits, and the paranormal is no mistake. It is a fascinating way of keeping our minds open to that which exists beyond life on earth. It also reminds us of our history, including people’s stories and experiences on earth. It gets people talking and thinking on a soul level.  There is no coincidence in the uptick of interest in ghosts and other-worldly beings. It represents the pivotal awakening of the world to spiritual matters. Not everyone will wake up to the gifts within them in this lifetime; however, more and more people will be guided toward a spiritual path in an effort to bring more light and love to this planet. This movement toward the spiritual aspects of our existence has the potential to usher in more peace on earth through personal contentment, knowledge, and universal understanding.

Much can be learned from ghosts and spirits. They hold information from the past, the present, and the future, as well as information about life after death and the universe. There is no need to fear them, as they are in our midst to teach us about our souls, as well as all that exists beyond life on earth.

Your Ghostly Encounters

Have you had any experiences with ghosts or spirits? Do you have questions about ghostly encounters? I would love to hear from you. Feel free to email me at SpiritMedium@comcast.net or enter your comments below. Namaste!

 

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

How to Experience Heaven on Earth

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Hamilton PondDo you remember what life was like when you were a child? Do you remember the simplicity of your days and having the belief that anything was possible? As we grow, our responsibilities increase, we experience hardships, and we learn lessons about love and loss that may harden our hearts and block us from the magical possibilities that are a part of our existence each and every day.

Fear is the Ultimate Block

The human ego, which is the seat of our fears and insecurities, tries to protect us from further emotional pain by reminding us of our past hurts. It can be a very persistent and persuasive voice that tells us not to try again or that taking risks is hopeless because it will only bring pain, rejection, and disappointment. As well-meaning as the human ego can be, it can also be very detrimental if we grant it too much power over our lives.

Taking Risks Brings Rewards

The gift of the human ego was given to us as a challenge we are meant to learn to effectively manage. We cannot rid ourselves of it while residing on this earth, because it is as much a part of our physical existence as our human bodies. The best we can do is to learn how to recognize its influence in our daily decisions, thank it for its presence, and learn how to move beyond the limitations it tries to instill upon us. By taking risks and believing in the positive rewards that come from living our dreams, making new friends, and opening ourselves up to love relationships, we do expose ourselves to potential emotional pain. At the same time, though, we grant ourselves the opportunity to experience the greatest satisfaction and love that we can achieve in this lifetime.

Forge Ahead with Loving Power

By forging ahead with the loving power within our souls, we are fulfilling our destinies for this lifetime. To do this, you must know and love yourself first, believe in who you are, and move forward without fear. Silence the inner critic of the human ego that tells you that you are not good enough or that other people’s opinions and emotions are more powerful and important than your own. Are other people living your life? No. Do they know what it is like to be you? No. Remember, other people’s fears come to the surface, and they may try to press them upon you because they are afraid you might get hurt or they may inwardly feel jealous that you are willing to take risks. Again, these fearful emotions are coming from that persistent voice of the human ego. Our job is to learn how to recognize when we are receiving sound advice or information based on fact, and when we are receiving advice or information that is based solely on fear.

Choosing to Refocus

Once your human ego awareness filter has been activated, you can begin to experience the magic of heaven on earth. What other people think of you is not going to matter so much anymore. You can recognize when the human ego is trying to prevent you from living the life you are meant to live, and you can move right past the fears it throws in your path. This does not mean that you will never experience fear, it means that you have discovered the key to managing it. Emotional pain is a part of life, but it does not need to rule you. It does not last forever unless you choose to allow it to do so. The key part of that statement is the ability to choose. You are in control of your choices. How you choose to live is entirely up to you. When you are feeling stuck or fearful, that is the time to let go and let God. Enjoy simple pleasures in life, much like you did when you were a child. Sit or walk outside and enjoy the fresh air. Nature is one of the best rejuvenators. Immersing yourself in its beauty and appreciating the gifts of this earth will help remind you that life on earth can be beautiful when we take the time to recognize it. Release your concerns, regrets, and worries, and just be for a while. We all need time to refresh in order to shift our focus to what truly matters…the simplicity of being, of loving, and of knowing that we are loved in return by God and the universe.

Heavenly Help

I experience the magic every single day of my life. I constantly receive messages from heaven that provide me with guidance, comfort, and love. I am not the only one who can experience this. As a spirit medium, I am clearly tapped in to the energies of heaven; however, we all possess this gift to some degree. We are all connected to one another, both here and in heaven, through the heart of our spirits. Our heavenly support teams of loved ones in spirit, God, and the angels, fully support us every day with their love and guidance. They know how challenging life can be on earth, and they want to help us succeed on our journeys. By opening yourself up with faith, love, and confidence to the guidance and messages that come from your heavenly support team, you can experience the magic as well. Communications via our spirits is performed through all of our senses, and the more you learn about how it works, the better you will be at recognizing heaven’s presence on earth.

Learning More

If you are looking to learn about spirit communication, there are many resources available, including my book, How Have You Loved? Choose resources that resonate with you, and enjoy your journey.

Extraordinary Magic

There is so much more to life than meets the eye. I truly wish that everyone could see the universe the way I see it, and by sharing the knowledge and perspective I have gained through my communications with heaven, I hope to help as many people as possible to understand and experience the extraordinary magic within each one of us. If the human ego had its way, we would all live in fear, tied up in the mundane worries of grocery lists and other people’s opinions. There is magic out there in the world that expands well beyond the surface of our existence on earth, and the only way to experience it is to let go of your fears and believe.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
To learn more about Karen, who is based in Horsham, Pennsylvania, and her book, How Have You Loved?, visit her website at www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com.

How Soon After Passing Can a Loved One Communicate?

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19006270When our physical body expires on earth, our spirits, also referred to as our souls, continue to exist, as does the bond that connects us with one another. As a professional spirit medium, I experience firsthand knowledge from loved ones in spirit every day. The transfer of information is much more complicated than a fireside chat. It is a form of communication that utilizes all of my senses to share information between dimensions. It requires great attentiveness and energy to be open and receptive to the content sent through images, sounds, feelings, tastes, and smells. Moreover, the symbols our guys and gals in heaven use to convey their messages needs to be pieced together for the recipient in order to form a coherent message.

When Can Divine Communication Take Place?

Many people ask me how soon a loved one in spirit can communicate once they have crossed over. The answer is right away. I have experienced immediate communications from both animals and people. I would like to note that while communication is possible, not every being in spirit is skilled at communicating as soon as they cross over. Some are better at it than others. This is because they are older souls that have this knowledge stored within the memory banks of their spirit. I would also like to add that it is important to give your deceased loved ones time to adjust to their new reality. It is equally important to allow yourself time to grieve and adjust to the changes in your life caused by the loss of a loved one. People who are in the depths of strong grief need time to heal, and when they reach out to a spirit medium too soon, they may not be open and receptive to what their loved ones in spirit want to share. Grief and deep sadness have a tendency to block spiritual communications because a person’s main focus is on painful emotions and situations. Often, they only want to hear what they want to hear. Think of it this way: when you experience sharp physical pain, it tends to take over your mind and temporarily halt all other thoughts. In fact, all you can think about is how to rid yourself of the physical pain. It is similar with emotional pain that accompanies strong grief in which the hurt of loss blocks out all other thoughts other than how to relieve the heartache.

Healing and the Grief Process

The time it takes for each person to process grief and work through the healing process is unique to each individual. There are many factors that contribute to the effects of grief including, but not limited to, the way someone passed, the depth of the relationship shared, and personal beliefs about what happens to us when we pass. While it is healthy to mourn the passing of a loved one, it is not emotionally healthy to dwell in grief for extended periods of time. Choosing to remain in a state of perpetual sadness not only blocks you from living the life you are meant to live, but also prevents you from recognizing the signs and messages that loved ones may be sending from the Other Side. In addition, it does not change the fact that a loved one is no longer sharing an earthly experience with us. It is important to understand that our loved ones in spirit want us to go on with our lives and to try to experience as much joy as possible for the time we have on earth. If you need help in getting to this place, there are many resources available, such as grief counselors, life coaches, spirit mediums, friends, family, and more. Often, learning how to manage grief is one of the lessons to be learned for our souls in this lifetime. It is equally as important to understand that the bonds that we have with our loved ones and the love we share cannot be broken by the expiration of our physical bodies. Therefore, we are never truly separated from one another in spirit.

Guidance from the Other Side

Our guys and gals in heaven work from a place of light, love, and expanded knowledge. Their purpose for communicating with you, directly or through a spirit medium, is to bring healing and guidance to your life. A person who has reached a state of acceptance regarding a person’s passing is much more likely to get the most out of their reading with a spirit medium. This is because grief is no longer clouding his or her ability to be receptive to the information being shared. This does not mean that you do not miss your loved ones, it means that you have accepted that he or she has transitioned to heaven, and have made the conscious choice to continue your personal journey on this earth. When it is your time to cross over into heaven, you will be reunited with your loved ones in spirit, including any pets and animals that have made a significant impact on your life or you on theirs. In the meantime, your loved ones in spirit will continue to watch over you, as well as send you messages and signs letting you know that they are around.

They Communicate with You, Too!

Your loved ones in spirit use your senses, too, to let you know that they are around.* For example, they may place visual images in front of you that remind you of them. My father often uses signs related to firefighters and trains to let me know he is around. In addition, loved ones in spirit may play music in your head to give you answers to your prayers or that reminds you of them. You may also feel their presence, smell their perfume, or have strong taste cravings for the food they used to cook. They orchestrate these wondrous occurrences for you in ways that are challenging for the human mind to comprehend. Unfortunately, some people dismiss these occurrences and try to explain them away as coincidences. Nothing in this world is a coincidence, and it would truly amaze you to be able to comprehend the ways in which spiritual beings on the Other Side facilitate events on earth. They do so with our best interests at heart, and to help us navigate our journeys. Remember, they use a myriad of ways to get our attention, including our dreams.* When you see them there, it is your loved ones in spirit trying to help you to overcome your fears, to provide messages of comfort, and to help you to work through issues you face on a daily basis.

Namaste!

*Note: My book, How Have You Loved?, contains a lot of in-depth information about how your loved ones in spirit communicate with you, including how to interpret your dreams, why we are really here on earth, what we are to accomplish in our lifetimes, and how we can achieve our soul objectives.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
To learn more about Karen, who is based in Horsham, Pennsylvania, and her book, How Have You Loved?, visit her website at www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com.

Healing from Childhood Abuse: A Very Personal Journey with Divine Purposes for the Soul

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ChildSuffering from abuse as a child, whether it is verbal, physical, or sexual, can have a significant impact on your life as an adult. Often, people who are abused at a young age experience problems relating with others on a personal level. This is because their earliest experiences with relationships brought them pain, and eroded their trust and belief in others. The very people who were supposed to love and protect them introduced them to a world of hurt instead. Because of this treatment early in life, there are special challenges that people who are abused face regarding self-esteem, feelings of abandonment, a lack of feeling safe and loved, and the ability to trust others.

Fear of Retribution Leads to Underreporting and Unhealthy Relationships
Often, cases of abuse go unreported. Children who are abused are usually threatened by their abusers with more pain, or even death, if they tell someone about the horrors that they are living through. The people committing the abuse may also put the responsibility for the abuse on the children by telling them that it is their fault it is happening. Because children are in the formative stages of social development and look to adults for behavioral cues, they often accept the blame and internalize the resulting pain and confusion. Therefore, children often suffer in silence. In their minds, they are afraid to tell anyone and often pretend that they are happy, even when they are suffering. They become masters at hiding their feelings by keeping problems and secrets to themselves. They also may come to believe that their feelings are not as important as those of others, and may often put the needs of others before their own. These learned behaviors are a direct result of the way their abusers treated them. Tragically, this forms a skewed and damaged basis for future relationships for many of these children.

Healing Over a Lifetime
The personal journey of healing from childhood abuse may involve a lifetime of searching for peace, trust, safety, and love. Forgiveness plays a very important role in the healing process, as does learning how to love who you are. As adults, we can look back and try to make peace with what has occurred by extending forgiveness to all who have hurt us. Remember, forgiveness does not mean that you condone hurtful actions, it means that you consciously release painful situations in order to move forward with your life and growth. You may even get to the point where you see how these events made you more compassionate and empathetic toward others. Therapy and self-help books may also play an important role in working through the pain by learning how to relate to others and to build trust. Even though these steps may be taken, some people may still experience difficulties in their relationships. Because of the damage from the past, certain issues may trigger negative memories and, therefore, cause guards to be raised due to a perceived threat to their emotional or physical safety. Left unaddressed, the angst may build to unprecedented levels. The pressure may cause that person to withdraw from relationships, become depressed or even suicidal, lash out at others for seemingly no reason, express extreme fear or distrust, engage in unhealthy behaviors, cause self-inflicted pain, or exhibit other negative behaviors that are not easily comprehended by others.

Support and Love from Above
The true pathway to freedom from the effects of childhood abuse begins from within. It is a very spiritual and personal journey. People who are or have been abused need to know that their feelings matter, that their voice is heard, and that they are safe and loved. They also need to know that their experiences were not a punishment from God. As a person who has experienced childhood abuse firsthand, I know this journey well. I have traversed every aspect of its effects and have searched high and low for the reasons, as well as how I can heal and get back the trust and feeling of safety that was taken from me. From the depths of my soul, I have searched for ways to help myself and others with these issues. Therapy has helped; however, the most powerful answers and guidance I have received have come from my heavenly support team, including God. In order to receive the information, I had to go within and pay attention to what they were communicating with me through my soul.

My First Meeting with God
The first time God came to me, I was struggling with relationship issues. I felt like I was running on a treadmill of recycling negative issues and going nowhere fast. I was getting mad at God and asking why I was experiencing the same issues over and over again. In great despair one night, I cried myself to sleep, feeling hopeless and broken. When I woke up the next morning, I laid in bed not ready to get up yet and face the day. It was then that I experienced an incredible wash of love that came over me, accompanied by a brilliant white light that filled my vision. The feeling and the light were so strong and all-encompassing that I knew it was not of this earth. I knew in my soul that it was God sending his love directly to me, and that he wanted me to know, without a doubt, that I was loved. It was such a profound and magnificent experience that I never wanted it to end. Even now as I write about it, that feeling of love is still there, and I know that I can reach out and feel it in my soul whenever I need help. It was God’s way of telling me that he loves me and is always there for me whenever I need him.

My Second Meeting with God
The second time God came to me was during a similar time a few years later. I was getting so mad at God and asking him why he was testing me with painful situations over and over again. I felt I had suffered enough in my lifetime, and I wanted to know why he felt it necessary to keep torturing me. As before, I cried myself to sleep. The next morning, I awoke and did not get out of bed right away. As I lay there, I had a vision of being carried in God’s arms up a large, white staircase which looked like it was made of marble. God was carrying me like he would a baby, cradled in the safety of his arms and wrapped in his love. He was wearing a long and flowing white robe with a sash cinched at the waist. At the time, I could not see his face. As he carried me up the steps, he assured me that he was not testing me. He said he was my father and, like a father, it was not his job to step in and save me from all of the difficult situations I encountered. If he did, I would not learn or grow. He said it was hard to watch me struggle, but he knew that if he stepped in it would do me more harm than good. God told me he loved me and that he was always there for me, even when he could not intervene. He also said we are to love one another as he loves us—unconditionally, and that it is our connection with one another that makes us strong. As he climbed the wide steps, I could see a landing and then a second set of steps extending up to a place where a blinding white light shone. It actually hurt my eyes to look at it. I knew with all of my soul this was the light of heaven, and that it was not my time to go there yet. As we reached the first landing, I noticed two white thrones sitting side by side. They were exact replicas, except in size. God set me down on the landing and sat in the larger throne while guiding me to sit in the smaller throne to his left. He reached his left hand out and took my hand in his. Without words, we sat holding hands like old friends sitting together in the comfortable silence of each other’s company.

Profound Experiences Lead to Profound Understanding
Those profound experiences with God shook up my world. My understanding of why we are here and what we are meant to accomplish started to open up. There was never a doubt in my mind that God exists, I just was not sure of what his role was in my life until then. Instead of seeing God as the one responsible for my pain, I saw him as a friend, a father, and an almighty being who loved me enough to know when to step back and let me grow. Through further exploration with my heavenly support team, I received messages about the soul contracts we make before we are reborn on earth. Many of these contracts contain agreements to experience difficult circumstances in order to grow as souls. Instead of viewing my abuse as a karmic punishment from God, I saw it as a profound experience for learning how to reconnect with the heart of my spirit and to understand our true reasons for being.

Misguided, Not Evil
On an important note, the people who commit the act of abuse are not inherently evil. They are misguided human beings who also have difficult lessons to learn in their lifetimes. Believe it or not, we made the agreement through a soul contract to experience painful circumstances that were meant to push each of us to learn and become better people. Whether we actually do learn and grow is entirely up to each individual. For those who are abused, there are many lifetime lessons including learning how to reconnect with the beauty of our souls, how to forgive, and how to trust in God and others. People who have committed abuse have lifetime lessons of their own, including learning about how hurting others hurts themselves, how to respect and honor the self and others, as well as how to overcome the internal shame and pain of mistreating others.

Reconnecting with Your Heavenly Support Team
Whether you have been abused, committed abuse, or are in relationships affected by abuse, we are all here to learn lessons about love, forgiveness, and compassion. We can help each other in positive ways by speaking and working from the heart, and reconnecting with the best friends we will ever have – ourselves and God. You and God are together on this journey, and it is a relationship that is built upon love and trust. I did not always trust God because of the difficult experiences I had in my life, but now I do, and I find I have more peace in my heart than I have ever had before. This does not mean I no longer fall back from time to time into feelings of angst. It means I am quicker to recognize and understand why I am experiencing upsetting emotional reactions. I now know how to better handle the situations that trigger those feelings. Trust and love is built. Sometimes it takes baby steps to get there, especially when you have experienced hurtful circumstances during the foundational years of your life. Your guys and gals in heaven have your back, and they will help you. Your job is to trust in their assistance, and follow through on the guidance you receive from them through repeated signs and messages.

May Peace be with You
Be at peace, and know that everything you experience has a divine purpose. God is not punishing you; rather, he is helping you to grow into the beautiful being that you are today. Our job is to help ourselves and others to heal through compassion and love, as well as through faith in the divine circumstances that help us to grow as souls.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
To learn more about Karen, who is based in Horsham, Pennsylvania, and her book, How Have You Loved?, visit her website at www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com.
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