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How to Appreciate the Gift of You

July 18, 2023 by healings-admin Leave a Comment

Is your inner critic taking over? Are you having difficulty with a slew of negative thoughts in your head about yourself?

The Negative Voice of the Human Ego

There are times when we are very hard on ourselves. This is caused by the human ego, which is the seat of our fears and worries. It is not the ego that says, “I am better than everyone else.” That is conceit. There is a big difference between that and the human ego which was put in place as a challenge to help us grow as souls. There can be good that comes from the negative voice of the human ego as it may push us to do better; however, it can also work against our greater good when we mentally beat ourselves up with negative thoughts about ourselves. It can be easy for thoughts to sneak in, especially when we are tired, that we may call ourselves “stupid” for making a simple mistake. Catching ourselves doing this and replacing that thought with two uplifting or positive thoughts helps, as does being mindful about treating ourselves with love. Changing your mindset about how you feel about yourself goes a long way toward lessening the effects of the human ego. On an important note, if you are experiencing repetitive negative thoughts about yourself or are struggling with great fears, worries, or anxiety that are keeping you from living your life in a meaningful way, it may be beneficial to speak with a professional psychologist.

How to Counter Negative Thoughts

As mentioned above, replacing negative thoughts with positive ones helps us appreciate ourselves. To remind you of the beautiful soul you are, it is helpful to take time out to appreciate who you are and all the accomplishments that you have achieved during your time here on Earth. It takes a conscious effort to turn your thought patterns around because negative thinking can become a habit. It pushes its way into our lives every day, but we can choose to deflect it and even step beyond the clouds that hover in order to see the light of our own souls. There are other ways to strengthen how we view ourselves.

Creating the Gift of You List

Once you are in a state of calm, think about what you have accomplished in your life and the kindnesses you have extended and received, as well as the moments that made you feel good about yourself. Write them on your list. Be honest. This list is for you, not anyone else. Keep the entire list positive. If any negative thoughts intrude, push the mind chatter of the human ego away and get back to your list. Once you get going, I think you will be amazed at what your list reveals.

Active Reminders

Whenever negativity intrudes or you are feeling particularly blue, pull out your list to remind yourself of the good times for which you are grateful. Keep the list growing by adding your accomplishments, as well as positive life-altering events and moments that have brought you joy and happiness. The list will keep growing as your soul evolves.

Let the Light Rule

Even though we are focusing on the positive, it is important to know that adversity and negativity does serve its purpose. It may have even led to some of the more important and happy times in your life by clearing away that which is no longer useful or by pushing you to go beyond your perceived limits to help you achieve your dreams. Without darkness, there would be no light. A problem occurs when we let darkness rule our lives and thoughts, making it seem as if negative experiences are the expected norm in our lives. They are not. All experiences can be learned from and utilized for good. By making a list of your accomplishments, as well as positive attributes and moments, you are giving yourself the opportunity to see and appreciate all your life experiences and the gift of you.

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

International Spirit Medium, Paranormal Investigator, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, Motivational Speaker, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is an international spirit medium, paranormal investigator, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through spirit medium readings and angel readings, speaking engagements, and workshops she instructs, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in Heaven.

Click here to learn more about Karen’s upcoming events or click here to learn more about Karen’s Workshops.

Resilience through Trust and Faith

March 24, 2020 by healings-admin 2 Comments

Circumstances beyond our control can sometimes be the cause for much angst in our lives. Everyone experiences stress; however, how we handle it and what we decide to do about it determines whether it will take over our lives or whether we will overcome it.

Faith and Trust are Earned and Learned

Having faith and trust is not a given. It is a choice that is made which includes the surrendering of the human ego that always wants to control outcomes. Anyone can say they have faith, but to live it is to experience it with all of your being. In our lifetimes on this earth, we will face many challenging circumstances that may make us question the existence of God and whether or not God is helping us and loves us. Trying circumstances are not tests or punishments, but rather opportunities to truly experience God through choices made with our free will. As we power through the tough times, it is often difficult to see the positive reasons for negative circumstances. One of the most important lessons I have learned in this lifetime is to continually look for the positive lessons and outcomes buried deep within negative situations and encounters. The more I have practiced this approach, the more I can see how events are facilitated on this plane for the benefit of all. In turn, my faith in God and the circumstances I face has significantly grown, bringing inner peace, understanding, knowledge, trust, and love to the heart of my being. No longer do I allow circumstances to overwhelm me to the point of immobility. Short bursts of fear, upset, or shock can and do creep in at times, especially at the onset of receiving news that unexpectedly causes a significant change of plans; however, I do my best to quickly let go of the fearful reactions from the human ego. As I work through the issues, I acknowledge the situation, knowing there is a positive purpose I may or may not understand at the time. I then begin the process of actively working on solutions for the best path for me, as well as for those involved. It is my faith and trust in my guys and gals in heaven, also known as my Heavenly Support Team, which brings the state of calm necessary for clarity in decision making.

The Cultivation Process

Over the years, I have cultivated great trust in myself and my Heavenly Support Team. Through the trying circumstances, they have taught me time and again that they are here to help and guide me when it is appropriate for them to step in and assist. It is important to note that they will withhold information when it is time for me to make pivotal decisions about my life. Free will to choose our paths is a gift given to us when we were created. The times when our guys and gals step back may be marked by a silence or an absence of feeling your personal loved ones in spirit around you. They are there; however, they are not allowed to interfere or influence your decision making process.

Shouldn’t we be Independent?

People have asked me why I would want help from my Heavenly Support Team. If we have free will and are supposed to grow through our independence, why would it be appropriate to ask for and receive help on this journey? While it is important to learn and make decisions on our own, it is equally important to know we are not alone on our journeys. Life on earth can be difficult and challenging; however, it holds many rewards. Our guys and gals in heaven know this, and they know working together creates unity and synchronicity which greatly increases success for each individual, as well as for soul groups. The success they are helping us work towards is spiritual success. Our lives here are not about what jobs we have worked or money we have earned. Those are mundane aspects of life which are used as tools for lesson learning. Instead, our true mission is a spiritual one of the soul in which we learn to actively love ourselves and others while rediscovering the amazing connections we have with God and all of creation. Our guys and gals in heaven do what they can to be our cheerleaders, our guides, and our mentors. They are not interfering with our growth but supporting it through their love and knowledge while allowing us to make all of the important decisions on our own.

Improving Results

In this challenging maze of life, we are also here to help and be helped. No man or woman is an island. We are here to learn how to love one another and how to work with one another. Being open to giving and receiving from both earthly and heavenly sources is one of our largest lessons here, because it is based in love – the reason for our existence. There is no shame in asking for help when you need it. We are all a significant part of a team who, together, are experiencing a spiritual journey for our souls as human beings. When we open our hearts and minds with a fearlessness born out of trust and faith, we become resilient travelers who can overcome adversity and do anything we set our minds to accomplish. When we work together with those on earth and in heaven, the achievements have the potential to be even greater as the combined energies and unique talents greatly multiply the love and positive results.

Delving Deep

On earth, much of the knowledge built into our souls is often veiled from us. This is done to provide the challenges we requested in the form of soul contracts, which are the plans for the lessons we are to learn while we are here. One of our quests is to delve deep into our souls in order to bring the knowledge to light. It is a lifelong journey beset with challenges and setbacks, but also great rewards in the form of grace, inner peace, and love.

Reawaken Your Soul

Through my experiences, my Heavenly Support Team has earned my trust by showing me there is a world much bigger than ours and everything we experience here is for the beautiful reawakening of our souls to the light and love of heaven grounded within the hearts of our spirits. It is my hope and prayer for each and every being to recognize the great love from which we are created, as well as comprehend the vital importance of resilience built upon trust and faith in the divine reasons for our existence.

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved?Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through spirit medium readings and angel readings, speaking engagements, and workshops she instructs, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in Heaven.

Click here to learn more about Karen’s upcoming events or click here to learn more about Karen’s Workshops.

Managing Fears of the Unknown

April 22, 2019 by healings-admin Leave a Comment

Each day when we awaken, we do not know what the day will bring. We have ideas about how we would like it to go; however, there is no guarantee it will unfold according to our plans. As human beings, we have the tendency to take comfort in knowing what to expect, in routines, and that which is familiar to us. When unexpected events occur, it may stir feelings of dread, upset, or fear, or on the other hand, it may bring about feelings of delightful surprise, astonishment, or happiness. Changing circumstances and events are an inevitable part of our lives. The world is constantly in motion, as are our lives. The decisions we make each day set off a series of reactions and effects which, in turn, create more reactions and effects which ripple out to touch the many situations and people we encounter. All of us are on our own unique journey; however, we are all connected with one another through the hearts of our spirits.

Fearing the Unknown

In essence, we truly do not know what will come next in our lives. There are some events which are destined to occur; however, when and how they will come about depends on the decisions we make and the lessons we learn. There are times when fear of the unknown causes us to attempt to pause our progress due to indecision about which path to take. The choices laid before us may be difficult to choose from because staying where we are may not be the best option and choosing a different path requires a leap of faith that all will work out well. However, the voice of the human ego, which is the seat of all our fears, tends to stoke the fires of uncertainty, leading to worrying thoughts which pause our progress. The negative and persistent presence of the human ego in our thoughts was put there as a challenge. It provides the illusion of separation from God, Heaven, and our divine plans. Instead of allowing the human ego to govern our lives, we can take steps to learn how to recognize it and move past it.

Redirect Your Attention

When faced with a dilemma, instead of allowing your mind to play out all the worst-case scenarios, redirect your attention to the choices at hand. If you have time, try to objectively examine and research your options. Write lists of pros and cons about each path to see which balances out for the better. You can talk with trusted advisors; however, the decision you make will be up to you. Many of the situations we face require a leap of faith; however, that does not mean you need to jump in without knowledge or forethought. The key is to try to make educated decisions in an objective way.

Leaps of Faith

In my own life, I have had quite a journey of faith which required the management of fear of the unknown from the human ego and acquirement of absolute trust in my circumstances. It was a challenging journey at first, as I had to let go of all I thought I knew and wanted in order to let go to make way for what was meant to be in my life. This meant letting go of the desire to control outcomes and focusing on the present, knowing I would be led into beneficial situations or they would come to me. This does not mean that everything would be rosy and wonderful. That would be unrealistic. It means being open to circumstances, no matter what they are, with the perspective that they are designed to help me become a better soul and a more effective person, as well as to allow me to help others through similar circumstances. Challenges can and do come into my life, and I do my best to manage them. I, like you, have my own life lessons to learn and I continually strive to improve the various aspects of me that need work. The human ego with its fears, regrets, and worries is an aspect of being human that remains with us for our entire lives. It can be managed, but it will not go away entirely, which is why learning how to recognize its presence and determining whether concerns are real or generated as a challenge are important to your state of mind, the progress you make in your life lessons, and your spiritual journey.

Everything will be Alright

One very important aspect I have learned from the repeated messages from my guys and gals in heaven is that everything will be alright. This message comes through with great regularity not only for me, but for others. As human beings, we can waste so much time worrying about what will be that we often lose focus on what is. When focusing on the mundane matters of life, we lose focus on the much more important aspects of why we exist and why we are living a life on earth.

Our lifetime on earth is a short journey in the entire existence of our beings. We are here to learn hard and fast lessons we could only learn here, and we are to help one another through the process. There is a balance of negative and positive. Even when it seems there have been more bad experiences than good, it helps to keep in mind there are positive reasons for negative circumstances. Often, it is the powerful lessons behind the situation which drive the occurrence of events. By searching for the positive reasons, you can achieve more understanding about the events of your life. This can lead to a calmer state of mind and a releasing of fears of the unknown, as you will begin to see the beneficial patterns which have been occurring all along.

Namaste!

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

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Your Self-Worth Is Not Measured by the Opinions of Others

November 19, 2017 by healings-admin Leave a Comment

Have you taken a non-judgmental look inside your heart and spirit to assess the traits that define the essence of who you are? Have you accepted all of those traits in a loving manner by embracing and recognizing the positive ones, and acknowledging the ones that need a little work?

Self-Awareness and Self-Love

Knowing who you are and loving who you are, are important factors for claiming the power within you that is rightfully yours. When you allow the negative words and actions of others to define you, you are giving other people the power to dim the light within you.

Determining the Reason behind Communications

There is a very big difference between someone providing you with constructive feedback and someone hurling insults and hurtful words at you. The clues to determining the difference are in the delivery and the motivation for the feedback.

Respect Comes Naturally

When people have your best interest at heart, they will speak to you in a respectful manner, and the thoughts they share with you come from the heart. The person who speaks with you in this manner is genuinely interested in your welfare, and would like to help you succeed.

It is Their Fear

On the opposite end of the spectrum, when people say vicious or mean things to you using sarcastic, biting, or angry tones, they are projecting their own negative feelings about themselves on you. The motivation for such behavior is based in fear. Often, it is because they envy what you possess and are afraid that they will never have it themselves. In this person’s mind, they mistakenly think that putting you down will raise themselves up. Instead of taking responsibility for themselves and their personal happiness, they lash out at you. When facing an onslaught such as this, you need to be strong enough in your own right in order to recognize the motivation behind this behavior, and to dismiss it as someone else’s fears and not a reflection of who you are.

How to Achieve the Best Results

In relationships and communications, it is love, self-love and love toward others, that creates the outcomes we desire. Coming from a place of fear or attempting to instill fear in others may temporarily achieve certain results; however, in the long-term, it eats away at the levels of trust and can ultimately destroy interpersonal relations.

What to Do

When you encounter people who are operating from a place of fear instead of love, you can choose to dismiss their comments and hurtful behavior and move on with your life. Whether it was a momentary transgression or a more problematic aspect of someone’s behavior, try to take a more understanding and compassionate approach by knowing that each person is doing their best to grapple with the issues that we contend with on earth. We all make mistakes, and, hopefully, we learn from them. Within your heart, mind, and soul, forgive the person for their transgression, and wish them love, health, and happiness.

Self-Worth Is Defined by You

All in all, when you love yourself for who you are and you operate from a standpoint of love, you can more easily recognize when someone’s behavior is motivated by his or her fears, and not genuine feedback that you should take to heart. Your self-worth is a value that is defined by you, and only you. The actions you take and the thoughts you share display to others the value you hold for yourself in your heart, mind, and spirit. Believe in you, and love who you are, because you are a beautiful light in this world who deserves an abundance of happiness and love.

Namaste!

With much love and many blessings for all,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

Click here to learn more about Karen’s upcoming events.

Finding Moments of Serenity in a Challenging World

October 16, 2017 by healings-admin Leave a Comment

Life on this earth can be very challenging and trying. Between the seeming mountains of responsibility, the complicated relationship dynamics, and an inordinate amount of negativity on the internet and television, it can seem like an insurmountable task to find serenity within our souls. While we are here to learn lessons for our souls, we do not have to take the hard road or get swallowed up by the less than wonderful moments in our lives. Nor do we need to expose ourselves to other people’s agendas that are based on fear rather than love. We can choose to find the positive reasons for negative circumstances – yes, they do exist, and if you look for them, you will find them. We can also choose to carve out moments of happiness for ourselves to keep us going, lighten our hearts, and create joyful memories we can call upon when times get rough.

Events on Earth Can Be Frustrating

As you know, we do not always get what we want, when we want it. This can be frustrating at best, and crushing at worst. It is the human ego within us demanding that our needs and wants are immediately met. Unfortunately, we are often disappointed when this does not occur. What can we do to ride out the storm while retaining hope for the future? Often, it takes a reminder that the circumstances we face have to do with soul contracts put in place prior to our birth. These contracts dictate the lessons we will learn for our souls while residing on earth. Since heaven is a very happy place, it is challenging for us to learn the hard and fast lessons that life on earth offers. That is why we face obstacles and trying circumstances here. This does not mean, though, that our lives are meant to be devoid of happiness. We are meant to overcome the challenges we face with love and hope, as well as the understanding that there are important reasons for events to occur. Our dreams can and do come true here. Sometimes we need to gather the fortitude necessary to have patience and faith in the beneficial outcomes of our affairs.

Finding the Reasons

When I find myself becoming frustrated with the length of time it is taking to see my dreams come to fruition, I remind myself to step back and stop worrying. God and the angels know what we are in need of, and they will provide it when the time is right for us. When I look back on my life, I can see the impeccable timing of the gifts I have been given. I can also understand why certain circumstances had to occur when they did because they gave me the skills I needed for future endeavors. When I was going through the tough times, it was difficult for me to understand the positive reasons for their occurrence. It is only through time and thoughtful examination that the true, positive reasons revealed themselves to me. However, I had to look for them. If I were to drown my heart and thoughts in negativity, it would be very hard for me to ever see the positive meanings behind any circumstances.

Relinquish Control and Breathe

By letting go of my desire to control certain outcomes, I am clearing the way for the universe to step in and deliver my most heartfelt desires. Instead of fighting and hitting road blocks, I relinquish control and focus on activities that bring me joy. Fretting and worrying do not change circumstances, they only waste time. Living in the present and making the most of my current circumstances helps me appreciate and enjoy who I am, as well as those around me. A great way to bring your focus back to the present is to simply breathe. Place your hands on your heart and concentrate on your breath as you inhale in through your nose. Envision positive energy flowing in as the air flows into your body. Take a brief pause, then exhale through your mouth while envisioning the release of negative energies. Your breathing should sound like the ocean. This relaxing Finding Your Center exercise is great to use for calming anxieties, focusing your energy on the present, and helping you speak from the heart.

You Are Given the Power to Succeed

When God wants you to do something, you will be given the abilities, the strength of will, and the resources to do it. You will also receive repeated signs and messages pointing you toward those goals. Divine intervention will lead you to the path you are to follow, and it often happens in ways that are wonderful and, at times, miraculous. It takes an open mind to see beyond the obvious to the extraordinary signs and circumstances delivered by your heavenly support team. When you recognize it, your heavenly support team cheers, because you acknowledged all of their hard work on your behalf. Your gratefulness will lead to even more events and divine intervention, as they know you are paying attention and appreciating their assistance.

Serenity is Vital to Your Path

It is important for your overall well being to create moments of serenity, especially when you feel most anxious or harried by the events of life. Remember, you have an incredible team of heavenly beings that love and support you. It is their desire to help guide you to the best possible paths for you. You can help them with their efforts by learning how to create and invite moments of calm in your life. It is in the stillness that you are most receptive to the guidance that can lead you out of the darkness and into the light.

Namaste!

With much love and many blessings for all,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

Click here to learn more about Karen’s upcoming events.

Resilience through Trust and Faith

June 26, 2017 by healings-admin Leave a Comment