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Set Yourself Free through Forgiveness

January 13, 2014 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Whether it is painful events in the recent past or from as far back as childhood, emotional, mental, and spiritual trauma can be released from your spirit through forgiveness of the person or people involved, including yourself.

Complex Decisions and Challenging Situations
As spiritual beings on a human journey, we decided to live a lifetime on this earth to learn lessons that will enable us to grow as souls. Many of the lessons we have chosen require complex decisions and challenging situations that can have a significant impact on the evolvement of not only our souls, but also on the souls of others. Because we are in a stage of learning, and are not all-knowing beings, mistakes will be made. It is important to forgive each other for the mistakes we make and to look beyond the pain to the lessons that are built into the situations we encounter on a daily basis.

Reasons and Choices
In order for our souls to evolve to a clearer understanding of the reasons for our existence, it is necessary to face challenges that make us question and think about our self-worth, our relationships and connections with others, and whether or not there really is a higher power that guides us. The reason you experience tragic, sad, or disheartening events is not to drag you down, but to give you a choice. You can choose to let these situations mire you in negativity and self-pity, or you can choose see the blessings and lessons that God and the angels are assisting you with in order to open your heart, mind, and spirit to the truth that exists within your soul.

Why It Is Beneficial to Forgive
Forgiveness is an acknowledgement and a release of actions from the past that caused harm to yourself or others. Extending forgiveness does not mean that you are condoning the behavior that caused you or others harm. It means that you have come to terms with the situation and have made a conscious decision to release its hold on you. By recognizing that these events served a very important purpose in your soul evolvement, you can also learn how to express gratefulness for the lessons you learned. In order to do that though, you must be able to look beyond the pain in order to see how you were given the opportunity to grow as a soul. The rewards you receive for perceiving the patterns and lessons behind traumatizing events includes amazing enlightenment about yourself, others, and the universe as a whole, as well as a realization that these events were necessary steps toward achieving your dreams in this lifetime.

It is important to note that you do not have to be in someone’s presence in order to forgive them. You can extend forgiveness in your heart and mind by sending forgiving thoughts toward the situation and the people involved. Our connection in spirit with one another allows the messages to be received by the spirit of the person you are forgiving. The people that are here on earth may or may not be consciously aware of your message of forgiveness; however, the spirit that resides within them will have received and acknowledged the forgiveness you have extended.

What Happens When You Refuse to Forgive
Holding grudges, anger, and pain inside of yourself hurts you. Those negative emotions and thoughts prevent you from moving forward and draw toward you more unfortunate circumstances. When you are focused on the lower energies produced by fear and anger, you are dragging down your own energy. This will attract more situations to you that are harmful. By choosing to release negative emotions, you are releasing their hold on you. This will lighten your energetic load and free you up to attract more positive experiences in your life. Keep in mind that how you live your life is your choice. Whether you decide to remain mired in misery or rise above the challenges you face, it is the gift of free will that gives you the option to choose the path that you take.

If you need help extending forgiveness, you can ask the archangels for assistance. They will help you to release the negativity and heal the pain that you have been carrying.

Repetition May Be Necessary
Even after you have extended forgiveness, there may be times when a situation will appear in your life that will bring to the surface old pain and remembrances of harmful situations. When this happens, you can extend forgiveness again and visualize the situation and the people involved as healed.

Choosing to be Free
As you make the choice to free yourself from the past, you are also making the choice to open yourself up to love and more positive experiences. Your spirit will be lighter, and you may even feel as though a physical weight has been lifted from your body. Enjoy the benefits and freedom that comes from releasing your past, and shift your focus to the present—which is full of gifts and opportunities for making positive choices regarding your life path.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Falling in Love with Your True Self

June 23, 2013 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

Would you marry you? Not just, do you love yourself, but are you IN LOVE with yourself? And by that I mean, do you truly love who you are inside and out, great qualities and flaws, the whole package…as you do when you are in love with someone else? This is not about ego saying you are the greatest thing since sliced bread, but about you having the joyful feeling of true love for yourself. Do you love who you are? Every aspect, even your shortcomings? Do you forgive yourself when you have done wrong, as you would another? Do you encourage yourself, as you do others? Do you thank yourself and give gratitude to yourself for learning important lessons and being able to see the positive in situations that were challenging to handle?

Being Your Own Best Friend
When a friend is upset or feeling down about relationship problems or a mistake that they had made, do you berate them and make them feel worse about themselves? Or do you comfort them by helping them to see the actions that they took that were positive and help them to see the silver lining or higher purpose for the events that took place? Most of us would when lend an ear and provide kindness and understanding. So, why is it that when we are having problems or make mistakes that our inner critic goes into overdrive and we berate ourselves for the difficult circumstances that we face?

In order to turn that pattern of thinking around, I recommend thinking of yourself as your own best friend. When you find yourself mentally and emotionally beating yourself up, stop. Think about what you would do if it was your best friend in a similar situation. Ask yourself what you would say to them or do for them and do that for yourself instead. Be kind and honest with yourself. Know that you did the best that you could under the circumstances that you faced and let go of the angst. Learn from your mistakes and know that you will do better next time because you have honestly assessed the situation and have learned what didn’t work. That knowledge is invaluable as it will help you to blaze new trails by trying out different solutions, move in a new direction, and/or open up new opportunities for you to grow.

Falling in Love
Back in October, I had a Spirit Medium reading given to me by my friend, Valerie, in which my deceased Dad came through. He said, “You have to marry yourself first.” When Valerie asked me if I understood, I said, “yes.” At the time, I thought it meant just to love myself for who I was, but now I know that my Dad meant that I needed to fall in love with myself first and everything else would fall into place. Truly loving who you are is the same as loving God. It is an acknowledgment of the wonderful gift that he has given you – the creation of your Spirit.

Your relationship with yourself and with God greatly affects your life and determines the path that you will take. The closer your relationship is with yourself, the closer you are with God. You are Him and He is you. All of our Spirits are connected through the light that is within each one of us…and that light comes from God, our Creator.

Sharing the Love
Once you have truly established a loving relationship with yourself and God, all other relationships will follow because you are at peace with who you really are, both internally and externally. Other people see and recognize that peace within you and are naturally drawn to the true you that you are radiating out to the world. Additionally, when you are at peace with yourself, it is easier to share your heart and joy with others. At the same time, it is easier for you to accept love from others because you know that you are worthy of receiving gracious gifts and abundance.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Reasons for Being

April 7, 2013 by SpiritMedium Leave a Comment

The theme that emerged from
Spirit this week revolved around life lessons and the reason why certain people enter into our lives.

We come here to this Earth to learn lessons that will help our souls to evolve. We choose what lessons we will learn before we are born into this world; however, the way in which the situations will come about are yet to be determined. While we are making these decisions, members of our soul group, as well as others, volunteer to help with certain lessons and you volunteer to help with theirs. This is what is known as a soul contract.

Certain people enter our lives to help us fulfill our soul contracts. For instance, someone may opt to pass away at the age of 27 in order to help members of their soul group to learn how to cope with tragedy, as well to understand that death is not the end of the Spirit because the love that connects us never dies.

Others may help us to learn to overcome the fear that holds us back from realizing our dreams. Most soul contracts involve a complex set of lessons that serve multiple purposes for multiple people. When we are born, the knowledge and awareness that we had about the contracts we made in Heaven is obscured from us. This is because it is part of our journey as a soul; to rediscover the reasons why we are here. The more we seek out the depth and breadth of this knowledge, the more in tune we are with our life purposes and can more readily see the lessons that we are learning and sharing.

Free will always plays a role in whether or not the lessons you have chosen to learn will be completed. That is why the way in which they come into your life is left to be decided by your choices. If you chose not to learn a particular lesson, whether consciously or subconsciously, it will come back to you repeatedly in this lifetime. For instance, if fear is blocking you from manifesting your dreams, situations will come up that will help to teach you about overcoming your fears such as conversations with others, books that you read, etc. (Note: The Angels and God are continuously giving you the tools you need to succeed with your soul’s evolvement. It is your choice whether or not to listen.) The time will come for you to put what you have learned into action. If you succeed, you will move forward onto the next lesson. If you do not, it will prevent you from moving forward in your life.

A prime example of this may be in someone you know, it may even be yourself. This person seems to struggle and be stuck in a pattern, whether it be harmful relationships, addictions, negative thinking, etc. This person is struggling within themselves and is having a hard time overcoming a particular lesson. People who are in this situation require compassion, even if it is challenging to give that to them. They should not be looked down upon just because they have not learned a lesson. Instead, send them love and kindness in prayer or help them if you can. Please know, though, that it is ultimately their decision about whether or not they want to move forward with their life. You cannot control them and they cannot control you.

This may be a good week for taking a look at your own life and the lessons you have learned. Take some quiet time to assess your achievements and to look forward to the ones that are to come.

Namaste!

With Love and Light,
Karen

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