The major theme that emerged this week had to do with how hard we are on ourselves and how we need to take time out to appreciate who we are and all of the accomplishments that we have achieved so far during our time here on Earth. It takes a conscious effort to turn your thought patterns around because negative thinking can become a habit. It pushes its way into our lives every day, but we can choose to deflect it and even step beyond the clouds that hover in order to see the light of our own souls.

A great way to start this shift in consciousness is to write a list about all of your accomplishments in this life, as well as all of your positive attributes. Sit in a quiet spot, place your hands over your heart, and take a deep breath in and exhale out. As you exhale, tell your ego to stop the mind-chatter. Dismiss all of your everyday concerns and focus on you and your heart. If you need help focusing, ask your Angels for assistance. They will be delighted to help you with this task.

Breathe deeply at least three times, then start thinking about you and your positive accomplishments, both planned and unplanned. Think about what you have done in your life and the kindnesses you have extended, as well as the moments that made you feel good about yourself. Write them on your list. Be honest. This list is for you, not anyone else. Keep the entire list positive. If any negative thoughts intrude, push the mind chatter of the ego away and get back to your list. Once you get going, I think you will be amazed at what your list reveals.

Whenever negativity intrudes or you are feeling particularly blue, pull out your list to remind yourself of how wonderful your life really has been. Keep the list growing by adding your accomplishments, big and small, as well as positive life-altering events and moments that have brought you joy and happiness. The list will keep growing as your soul evolves.

Even though we are focusing on the positive, it is important to know that adversity and negativity does serve its purpose. It may have even led to some of the more important and happy times in your life by clearing away that which is no long useful or by pushing you to go beyond your perceived limits to help you achieve your dreams.

Without darkness, there would be no light. The problem comes in when we let it rule our lives and thoughts, making it seem as if negative experiences are the expected norm in our lives. They are not. All experiences can be learned from and utilized for good. By making a list of your accomplishments and positive attributes, you are giving yourself the opportunity to see and appreciate all of your life experiences and the gift of you.

Blessings to all of you!

With Light and Love,
Karen

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Cooperation — A healthy relationship is based on understanding, cooperation, and communication.

We were put here on this earth to help each other. Not everyone understands this concept. Turmoil erupts when fear overtakes emotions, driving people to take action based on such negative emotions as jealousy, greed, and selfishness. Instead of responding in kind with anger, we can break the chain of negativity by countering such behavior with understanding and kindness.

It is very challenging at times to counter negativity with positive actions because our own shock and pain need to be dealt with before we can proceed. Sometimes our first instinct is to lash out at the person or people who hurt us. If anger or pain is coloring your thoughts, take a few steps back from the source of the negativity. Look at the situation from all points of view through an honest assessment of the behaviors of both you and the party involved that led to the problem. Come up with ideas for solutions that would create the most positive resolutions for everyone involved.

First and foremost, be honest with yourself and the other person or people involved. Set up a time to talk about the situation from a standpoint of trying to resolve it in the most positive way for all. Present your ideas, actively listen to the feedback you receive, work through the issue by allowing each person to express their thoughts, and do your best to move past the problem. Remember to extend forgiveness and to release the issue, knowing that it has been resolved.

If in your contemplation or discussions, you realize that the best solution would be to end the relationship due to unreconcilable differences, bring it to close with kindness, grace, and honor. Wish them well, pray for their health and happiness, and move on with your life.

When you have your own moments of behaving badly, apologize to the person you hurt. Let them know that you are sorry and mean it by not repeating the same negative or hurtful behavior. This will go a long way toward mending your relationship. Forgive yourself, too. We are all human and make mistakes. But to be a better person, we need to learn from our mistakes and we need to treat ourselves and others with kindness.

Try to be the best person that you can be despite the turmoil around you. Take the high road and choose to counter negative situations with positive reactions. We cannot control all of the events that occur in our lives, nor can we control the behaviors of others. We can control our own actions and reactions, though, and decide to look beyond the negative behaviors of others by displaying understanding, kindness and grace in the face of adversity and turmoil. By doing so, you will notice the peace and calm in your own life. At the same time, you will be showing others that fears and turmoil are often based on misunderstandings that can be resolved, or even prevented, with compassion and empathy. In this way, we fulfill our soul contracts to help each other as we live our lives on this earth.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

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